hmlsworld

I never imagined I would be going through another marrîage with almost identical problems. Yep stupid me married another alcoholic. I guess I thought things would be different this time around, but sadly they are not. My current husband is not abusive like my first one was, but drinks all the time and is so lazy at home. He is a hard worker at his day job, but is completely different at home. Even our sex life is struggling. I have wanted to have a baby for years, but alcohol has interfered with any kind of 'trying.' I do realize that it is definitley Gods way of saying it is not the right
environment for a child or time, but me being selfish I think at least I would have a child to take care of and love while my husband sleeps from drinking. I am so utterly lonely and have even gotten put on Cymbalta to help, but it not a magic pill. I have found an Alanon meeting, but have been fearful to go. I so need an outlet, but can't seem to make myself go. I know woe is me! If anyone has similar experience or maybe wants to talk on here with any advice please do. I would greatly appreciate someone who understands. I have nobody to talk to about thîs and really need encouragement. Thanks in advance

Momzo

I'm sorry you are feeling so sad. I joined this site last month after kicking my ABf out of my house. We were engaged and I finally realized I could never marry him. I found this site and I'm so glad I did. Please read the stickies and please do not be fearful to go to alanon meeting. You need to do what's best for you. Take care of yourself.

Big hugs to you xoxo

BoxinRotz

Don't be scared to go to ALANON. It's there to help you.

I so know the lonely feeling of having someone right there and being totally alone. It really hurts.

mytime66

Oh how I can relate to being lonely with my spouse still in the house. For me its the continued negativity and harsh retorts. It is just easier to stay busy with the kids and steer clear of any interaction with her. I'm still working on myself to make the exit. And of course working on remaining sober as well. I'm thinking the latter of the two is easier. Good luck and remember to feed your own happiness. Give a meeting a try, just treat it as a informational meeting and see if its a fit for you. Remember everyone there is there because of the same or similar reason.

deeker

[QUOTE=hmlsworld;3779882]I never imagined I would be going through another marrîage with almost identical proble


http://www.ga-al-anon.org/district-n...p?district=7ms.

Please go to an Alan-non meeting, you will find hope, there is link

rubycanoe

I too am married to an alcoholic and am so lonely. He drinks all day and goes to bed at 5 or 6 pm. I just sit here on my computer all night till 10 or 11 and watching tv. I need to go to Al-anon again too, have not gotten up the nerve so I can so relate. I am trying to take care of myself and go on alanon websites like this one and read my one day at a time in alanon and courage to change. It makes me really sad sometimes but he isnt abusive but I think he is getting deeper and deeper into his disease and I am probably getting more codependent. hoping to go to alanon and grateful for online sources like this one!

iamthird

I am lonely being separated from AH but it is more lonely with them laying right next to you being so far apart...that is the saddest feeling ever.

ReflectingOnMe

Glad you found us. SR will provide you with companionship and compassion. It is a safe place to vent, cry and rejoice.

LSC1

And I thought I was alone.