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Fasting
No, not literally. I love food. 
One year, my oldest kid fasted from Internet and cellphone use the full 40 days. I was incredibly impressed. For a teenager, that was pretty hard-core self-control.
I know it's a ways away. But I need to work up to 40 days.
You know what I'd like to fast from?
Giving people advice.
I give people advice all the time. In part, it's where my identity and my self-worth is. In being able to give advice to people, in being there and helping. Helping codie style!! (Whoop, whoop, whoop, whoop -- helping codie style. You will now be singing that. You're welcome.) I'm probably a little bit like that boyscout who was telling his parents about helping an old lady cross the street and telling them "it was hard work, too -- she was fighting me all the way across!"
So I'm going to start small. 40 days is a lot. How about a day at a time? No advice unless asked. (I'm scared already.)
One year, my oldest kid fasted from Internet and cellphone use the full 40 days. I was incredibly impressed. For a teenager, that was pretty hard-core self-control.
I know it's a ways away. But I need to work up to 40 days.
You know what I'd like to fast from?
Giving people advice.
I give people advice all the time. In part, it's where my identity and my self-worth is. In being able to give advice to people, in being there and helping. Helping codie style!! (Whoop, whoop, whoop, whoop -- helping codie style. You will now be singing that. You're welcome.
) I'm probably a little bit like that boyscout who was telling his parents about helping an old lady cross the street and telling them "it was hard work, too -- she was fighting me all the way across!" So I'm going to start small. 40 days is a lot. How about a day at a time? No advice unless asked. (I'm scared already.)
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Originally Posted by LexieCat
What will you do when your kids run out to the tattoo parlor?
I would treat them to some new ink....provided they are 18 of course.
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Goes without saying, got nothing against ink, myself.
Though I have cringed at some of the places it shows up. And it's one of those things I would not OK under 18--not that they become mature at 18 (or 24, or 26, not counting on 30, either...)
I would still have a hard time not offering, ahem, an unsolicited opinion.
Though I have cringed at some of the places it shows up. And it's one of those things I would not OK under 18--not that they become mature at 18 (or 24, or 26, not counting on 30, either...)
I would still have a hard time not offering, ahem, an unsolicited opinion.
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Originally Posted by LexieCat
I would still have a hard time not offering, ahem, an unsolicited opinion.
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Lillamy?? Let ME tell you what I think about this idea!! 
Sometimes, I feel like when I am reading other peoples ESH (or mine) it is still an attempt to give unsolicited advice. It just done in a more "manipulative" way.
Does that make sense to you and how do you avoid that??
Sometimes, I feel like when I am reading other peoples ESH (or mine) it is still an attempt to give unsolicited advice. It just done in a more "manipulative" way.
Does that make sense to you and how do you avoid that??
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Exactly. The sneaky I'm going to disguise this as ESH but it's really advice that you are obviously an idiot if you don't follow share. I do that, too.
I really want to take a step back and respect other people's right to make their own choices.
As for children running to the tattoo parlor? No advice needed. I'm still strong enough that I can sit on them until they decide a tattoo was a really bAd idea.
Except the one who's over 18. But he can't afford it.
I really want to take a step back and respect other people's right to make their own choices.
As for children running to the tattoo parlor? No advice needed. I'm still strong enough that I can sit on them until they decide a tattoo was a really bAd idea.
Except the one who's over 18. But he can't afford it.
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Originally Posted by lillamy 
One year, my oldest kid fasted from Internet and cellphone use the full 40 days.
Thanks for the post as I'm going to give this a go, for just a day for now. We'll see how that goes.
Gotta pick a day this week.
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Want me to tell you how to do it? Rofl.
I need to work up to that one but admire you - winced as I read it and will endeavor to make sure someone asks before I volunteer ;-)
As for kids, lol... Parenting is a whole different ball of wax. Thank God my DD asks about the big stuff and has the sense and maturity that makes it easy for me to stay hands off.
I need to work up to that one but admire you - winced as I read it and will endeavor to make sure someone asks before I volunteer ;-)
As for kids, lol... Parenting is a whole different ball of wax. Thank God my DD asks about the big stuff and has the sense and maturity that makes it easy for me to stay hands off.
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