Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt
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Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt
I wonder if anyone has read this book?
I saw a video of it a few minutes ago. Sounds like it is a classic tale of alcoholism, verbal abuse and codependency. I think I need to look into it.
Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt: Christi Paul, Sanjay Gupta: 9781414367378: Amazon.com: Books
I saw a video of it a few minutes ago. Sounds like it is a classic tale of alcoholism, verbal abuse and codependency. I think I need to look into it.
Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt: Christi Paul, Sanjay Gupta: 9781414367378: Amazon.com: Books
No, Ziggy, love is not supposed to hurt. I think that this is a newer book since I went through what I went through. I have most of the others though that they show as people looking at this, also viewed these.
It takes time to get over what you went through. I read book after book after book. I needed to, perhaps you do also. I needed to know that it was not me, I needed to know that there was nothing that I could do.
I have finally put all of my books away. There wasn't anything I could do to make things better. I had to put them away because I was still in the analysis/paralysis stage. Perhaps still am.
I understand your hurt and your pain. I'm sorry that I never responded to your posts, it was just that your pain was so similar to mine.
Just know we can do this. We can get past this. It does hurt. I feel for you so much that you run into him alot, since he works across the street.
Just know that you are in my heart.
Live your life, I am trying to do the same here.
We will get there. It will happen.
It takes time to get over what you went through. I read book after book after book. I needed to, perhaps you do also. I needed to know that it was not me, I needed to know that there was nothing that I could do.
I have finally put all of my books away. There wasn't anything I could do to make things better. I had to put them away because I was still in the analysis/paralysis stage. Perhaps still am.
I understand your hurt and your pain. I'm sorry that I never responded to your posts, it was just that your pain was so similar to mine.
Just know we can do this. We can get past this. It does hurt. I feel for you so much that you run into him alot, since he works across the street.
Just know that you are in my heart.
Live your life, I am trying to do the same here.
We will get there. It will happen.
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Thanks for you kind words Amy.
I have also read a lot of books and I was trying to focus on other stuff for a while but this seemed pretty relevant. I have cried a lot of tears but I am getting better too!
I have also read a lot of books and I was trying to focus on other stuff for a while but this seemed pretty relevant. I have cried a lot of tears but I am getting better too!
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Hi everyone
I am bumping the thread because I finished the book.
If you are struggling with codependency and leaving a verbally abusive marriage/ relationship I would really recommend it.
Christi is very religious and talks a lot about God so if that isn't your cuppa, you might not like this one. I was inspired by her ability to forgive and move on...
I am bumping the thread because I finished the book.
If you are struggling with codependency and leaving a verbally abusive marriage/ relationship I would really recommend it.
Christi is very religious and talks a lot about God so if that isn't your cuppa, you might not like this one. I was inspired by her ability to forgive and move on...
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I'm going through a divorce - AH was verbally and psychologically abusive. This book is on my list to read; I'm reading a lot about addiction but realized last week I need to focus on me and for me to heal. It's taken 10 months since my marriage was "over" and I am ready to face my pain more fully. One of my gfs is also going through a divorce and she HIGHLY recommends this book.
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I'm going through a divorce - AH was verbally and psychologically abusive. This book is on my list to read; I'm reading a lot about addiction but realized last week I need to focus on me and for me to heal. It's taken 10 months since my marriage was "over" and I am ready to face my pain more fully. One of my gfs is also going through a divorce and she HIGHLY recommends this book.
If you come across any other good ones feel free to let me know.
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I read a lot too. Learning about the addiction and the behaviors helped me make my way through the horrible confusion...wondering if I immagined it; thinking if only I did or said xyz I could have fixed it....helps the self doubts and the self-blame.
Doesnt take away the grieving, though. But still, understanding helps.
Doesnt take away the grieving, though. But still, understanding helps.
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