ZiggyB

I wonder if anyone has read this book?

I saw a video of it a few minutes ago. Sounds like it is a classic tale of alcoholism, verbal abuse and codependency. I think I need to look into it.

Love Isn't Supposed to Hurt: Christi Paul, Sanjay Gupta: 9781414367378: Amazon.com: Books

amy55

No, Ziggy, love is not supposed to hurt. I think that this is a newer book since I went through what I went through. I have most of the others though that they show as people looking at this, also viewed these.

It takes time to get over what you went through. I read book after book after book. I needed to, perhaps you do also. I needed to know that it was not me, I needed to know that there was nothing that I could do.

I have finally put all of my books away. There wasn't anything I could do to make things better. I had to put them away because I was still in the analysis/paralysis stage. Perhaps still am.

I understand your hurt and your pain. I'm sorry that I never responded to your posts, it was just that your pain was so similar to mine.

Just know we can do this. We can get past this. It does hurt. I feel for you so much that you run into him alot, since he works across the street.

Just know that you are in my heart.

Live your life, I am trying to do the same here.

We will get there. It will happen.

ZiggyB

Thanks for you kind words Amy.
I have also read a lot of books and I was trying to focus on other stuff for a while but this seemed pretty relevant. I have cried a lot of tears but I am getting better too!

ZiggyB

Hi everyone
I am bumping the thread because I finished the book.

If you are struggling with codependency and leaving a verbally abusive marriage/ relationship I would really recommend it.

Christi is very religious and talks a lot about God so if that isn't your cuppa, you might not like this one. I was inspired by her ability to forgive and move on...

mmk11

I'm going through a divorce - AH was verbally and psychologically abusive. This book is on my list to read; I'm reading a lot about addiction but realized last week I need to focus on me and for me to heal. It's taken 10 months since my marriage was "over" and I am ready to face my pain more fully. One of my gfs is also going through a divorce and she HIGHLY recommends this book.

ZiggyB

I think you will like it. I also tried learning about addiction but realized I needed to shift the focus on healing my pain.

If you come across any other good ones feel free to let me know.

ReflectingOnMe

For me learning about the addiction lets me forgive myself and opened me up for learning about my own needs and weaknesses.

Argnotthisagain

I read a lot too. Learning about the addiction and the behaviors helped me make my way through the horrible confusion...wondering if I immagined it; thinking if only I did or said xyz I could have fixed it....helps the self doubts and the self-blame.

Doesnt take away the grieving, though. But still, understanding helps.

sparkerly

thank you for sharing...