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I have made a decision to become a non-drinker. While I have made the decision before, many times, it seems I never seem to stick with it.
Tired of feeling bad after a night out, tired of it all.
I want to be the best person I can be in 2013. I don't have the time, money, and most of all I can't waste myself with too much alcohol. I am the type who does not drink at home, but in a social setting always overdo it.
I know I have self control...I did not drink anything on New Years Eve, and was with family who did (no driving at all involved). But last night, with friends, over did it...yet again.
Any advice, any wonderful "how you did it" messages are very, very welcome. I want to live without alcohol...forever.
Thank you kindly.
Tired of feeling bad after a night out, tired of it all.
I want to be the best person I can be in 2013. I don't have the time, money, and most of all I can't waste myself with too much alcohol. I am the type who does not drink at home, but in a social setting always overdo it.
I know I have self control...I did not drink anything on New Years Eve, and was with family who did (no driving at all involved). But last night, with friends, over did it...yet again.
Any advice, any wonderful "how you did it" messages are very, very welcome. I want to live without alcohol...forever.
Thank you kindly.
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Colorado
Posts: 796
Hello, and welcome. You'll find lots of support here.
Many peolple use a program of recovery such as AA. Have you considered that?
I drank for for many years until I had a problem, then, I had lost control.
Alcoholism is progressive if not eliminated by abstinance.
I quit many, many times. Solemn vows, moderated drinking and you name it. I could not stop.
I joined here five years ago, and have two years sober. It took me awhile.
I know the misery and self loathing that alcoholism brings. The only answer for me was to stop completely.
What helps me, is to think of that first drink and where it will lead. The wasted time, health issues and self hatred for not being able to stop is a bad place to be.
Many of us here have gotten a daily reprieve from alcohol. And I was a bad case.
You can do it. Just don't drink today. and repeat.
My best to you on your journey, and I hope you feel free to post as often as you like.
Many peolple use a program of recovery such as AA. Have you considered that?
I drank for for many years until I had a problem, then, I had lost control.
Alcoholism is progressive if not eliminated by abstinance.
I quit many, many times. Solemn vows, moderated drinking and you name it. I could not stop.
I joined here five years ago, and have two years sober. It took me awhile.
I know the misery and self loathing that alcoholism brings. The only answer for me was to stop completely.
What helps me, is to think of that first drink and where it will lead. The wasted time, health issues and self hatred for not being able to stop is a bad place to be.
Many of us here have gotten a daily reprieve from alcohol. And I was a bad case.
You can do it. Just don't drink today. and repeat.
My best to you on your journey, and I hope you feel free to post as often as you like.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Southern State
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Also looking for a good recommendation for a book on behavioral changing, staying on track, etc.
Ironically, at work, I have on a Fox online channel...the guest on the show told his story about overcoming his obesity and becoming a champion tennis player. He asked himself, when friends wanted to go out, did he want to go out with them and know he would not be his best self the next day, or go to bed and feel great the next day, ready to play his best game of tennis. He learned to opt for going to bed early and never regretted it. I do think it can be a learned way of living.
Ironically, at work, I have on a Fox online channel...the guest on the show told his story about overcoming his obesity and becoming a champion tennis player. He asked himself, when friends wanted to go out, did he want to go out with them and know he would not be his best self the next day, or go to bed and feel great the next day, ready to play his best game of tennis. He learned to opt for going to bed early and never regretted it. I do think it can be a learned way of living.
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Grand Rapids MI
Posts: 6,435
Getting sober is not magic and will power while important is usually not enough. In my case the following is how I got sober.
1. Things had gotten really bad I knew the insanity had to end
2. Told my wife (She already knew)
3. Saw a doctor who refered me to a treatment center
4. Attended IOP (Intensive out patient therapy for 3 months) Researched different recovery models and addiction in general. Used AVRT to help with urges
5. Removed all alcohol from my house
6. Stopped going to anything where alcohol was present
7. Started going to AA (All days that I was not in IOP)
8. Got a sponsor
9. Started working the steps of AA
10. Attended AA 5-6 days per week
11. 3.5 years sober still attend AA 4-5 days per week, have a huge network of sober friends, work with other alcoholics, read AA literature.
12. Have a wonderful full life without alchohol.
13. Repeat steps 8 - 13
1. Things had gotten really bad I knew the insanity had to end
2. Told my wife (She already knew)
3. Saw a doctor who refered me to a treatment center
4. Attended IOP (Intensive out patient therapy for 3 months) Researched different recovery models and addiction in general. Used AVRT to help with urges
5. Removed all alcohol from my house
6. Stopped going to anything where alcohol was present
7. Started going to AA (All days that I was not in IOP)
8. Got a sponsor
9. Started working the steps of AA
10. Attended AA 5-6 days per week
11. 3.5 years sober still attend AA 4-5 days per week, have a huge network of sober friends, work with other alcoholics, read AA literature.
12. Have a wonderful full life without alchohol.
13. Repeat steps 8 - 13
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Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
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I would highly recommend:
"A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle
"The Seat of the Soul" by Gary Zukav
These two books taught me a lot about loving myself, forgiving myself and dealing with life's ups and downs.
And, for me, I couldn't be around people who were drinking for a very long time.
"A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle
"The Seat of the Soul" by Gary Zukav
These two books taught me a lot about loving myself, forgiving myself and dealing with life's ups and downs.
And, for me, I couldn't be around people who were drinking for a very long time.
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Central New Jersey, USA
Posts: 1,345
There are many ways people have used to kick the booze. If you read here a lot you will get a lot of insight as to what has worked for others and what hasn't.
Welcome - I wish you good luck.
Welcome - I wish you good luck.
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