fallingtogether

No matter what I do, he is stuck in his own world. He asked me to come to the man cave to watch tv, I said no thank you, I'm going to watch the same show in the bedroom. Asked him to join, no response. Right now, his mere presence irritates the crap outta me. I don't feel like he's supporting me in any way, doesn't help around the house. Only gets excited over hunting, could give a **** less that i am sober..... Gosh, I don't wanna drink over it, I want to find peace with it. Serenity prayer, all day long. I know I'll get there, but right now, I gotta say this process blows! Thanks.... That's all I can vent about right now! Day 22 going to bed! Xoxoxo

lilgolden73

Good night Sunshine! Yes the process blows big time! xoxoxoxoxooxo

FreeFall

I'm going through that too. Sober it really stands out how self centered my boyfriend is. When I was drinking I was out more, and had more of my social needs fulfilled through friends,etc. Now that I am with him more I am realizing how much of a one way street our relationship is. I also realize I let this happen in many ways. Sometimes being clear headed is not a bonus lol

I hope that yours comes around and starts making an effort soon! Congrats on 22 days too!!

lilgolden73

Oh I am on day 15 tomorrow and the guy I live with is wonderful, yet still makes me craaazzzyyyy!!!

Dee74

I don't know your partner - it may be he's a jerk LOL but I think it's worth trying to stay calm and cool your heels for now

I think early recovery is a bit of a wild ride...and it must be for our partners too...there's a lot of changes happening... and at least we know why...he may not really have any real idea of what you're going through...

I found things started to settle down for me emotionally after day 30 and completely by day 90...and a lot of the things that drove me wild in the early weeks re-assumed their proper perspective.

I'd wait til you know who sober you is...then you can work out what you want, and don't want, in your life ft

fallingtogether

Thanks all. A good nights sleep hopefully helped me. It's 5 am, I'm waking up, he's gone deer hunting. I hope he kills one, that will make him happier too!