keeping my cool. it's not easy.
Crazy Cat Lady
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keeping my cool. it's not easy.
Just posting right now to keep from snapping my husband's head clean off his shoulders in a public place for making a bonehead move. He has been whittling away at my everloving last nerve for several hours now and it's finally snapped. The alcoholic in me wants to stand up in this quiet restaurant and belittle and berate him right into the ground. It will accomplish nothing and i know that. I'm just blowing off steam. Basically, we're on the way to a concert and he left the tickets at home. We'll have to buy new tickets (to go home and get them would make us late for the concert) so that puts us out $30. Peace with my husband is worth more than $30. Phew. I feel a fair bit already. Thanks for letting me vent everyone. Hope everyone's Saturday is going well.
Crazy Cat Lady
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Originally Posted by aeo1313 
You sound just like me and how I would be feeling in the same situation.
what concert?
what concert?
We had a very nice dinner. I told him that i was irritated but in the grand scheme of things it wasn't a big deal. I think forgiving him his mistake goes a long way towards me getting a little more of what i want, lol. For example, we are sitting much closer to the stage and speakers right now than he would prefer! But he hasn't raised a stink and i think me being gracious earlier has helped. Gosh, the patience i've learned in recovery sure is useful! I continue to be amazed at how many aspects of my life my sobriety and recovery has touched. Where once there was turbulence and chaos, i am seeing the path to order and peace. Where i was confused and lost i am gaining wisdom and understanding. My ability to understand the world around me, my fellow man and myself was lost to me when i was drinking. The quiet introspection and the ability to meditate and contimplate problems peacefully that i have gained astounds me daily. I hope i don't sound like i'm tootiong my own horn too much. I hope that everyone in recovery gains this insight. It's such a beautiful gift.
Oh, and Cake freaking rocks!
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I was pissed at him for leaving the tickets at home and us having to waste $30 on 2 more tickets. He's been griping about not wanting to be close to the stage, blah, blah, blah, music's too loud...i told him we could stand separately and he didn't like that either. Then we went to dinner and we found out he left the tickets and i was ready to tear into him but i didn't. We're at the concert now waiting on the band to start.
Ironically, the stage they're playing at is the Miller Lite Oasis, lol.
Ironically, the stage they're playing at is the Miller Lite Oasis, lol.
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Reading your post makes me think of my own relationships in the past 10 months and how they have improved . Seems to me the gifts keep coming if you're in a fit enough state to see them .
Rock on, M
Rock on, M
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I think every test of my nerves/patient/sanity is actually what's helping me grow. At the time though? Yeah, blah, blah, blah...... It's true, though, that it feels amazing to deal with things sober and even have negative feelings without freaking out. So cool.
Enjoy the concert!!
Enjoy the concert!!
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"keeping my cool. it's not easy."
It's a lot like learning to play the piano........
Lessons, practice and the longer you do it the better you get at it.
If you expect to play Beethoven well in your first few years, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
All the best.
Bob R
It's a lot like learning to play the piano........
Lessons, practice and the longer you do it the better you get at it.
If you expect to play Beethoven well in your first few years, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
All the best.
Bob R
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Toot away, I say. It's amazing when you are able to see yourself changing. If standing up and berating him is something you usually would have done and you didn't do it... I say that's quite the accomplishment. We are so quick to give into our anger because lets be honest, at the time... It feels DAMN GOOD. Being able to just ride it through and cool down always feels so much better however. You did it... That's fantastic!
Glad you guys enjoyed the show! Cake is pretty awesome!
Glad you guys enjoyed the show! Cake is pretty awesome!
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