I Hope this helps..
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I Hope this helps..
After 5 years Ive left my AH partner.. never to speak again
she relapsed twice 5 months after spending 3 months in a Rehab facility. I still am shaking my head.
I wanted to write this as even now I feel the sorrow, pain and constant anguish evaporating.. Its like growing wings again.
Like many I was so reactive and lived to my partners actions. And like many I felt empty living a big lie.
8 months ago I started seeing a Pschoanaylst as mentally I was gone. Its been hard but the key theme he get on telling me was a healthy me would never put up with her behavior - even sober she had a emotional range of a 8 yr old. He empashised that love was 50/50 and not" work" that if I didnt leave her it would quite literally kill me.
And i read these forums I started to believe again and something switched on again. I DESERVE BETTER and I do. Oh what a feeling to believe again.
My Ex could do anything and my care faactor would be zip.
For those struggling persevere, we only have one life. The emotional tenctacles of a AH are so strong but break them and the sun will shine again.
Experience is a hard teacher but I would never date a AH recovering or not. Its just my view but one borne of 3 rehabs( for my ex), 3 duis for my ex, the loss of all friends and the attempt to destroy my soul.
Take Care
she relapsed twice 5 months after spending 3 months in a Rehab facility. I still am shaking my head.
I wanted to write this as even now I feel the sorrow, pain and constant anguish evaporating.. Its like growing wings again.
Like many I was so reactive and lived to my partners actions. And like many I felt empty living a big lie.
8 months ago I started seeing a Pschoanaylst as mentally I was gone. Its been hard but the key theme he get on telling me was a healthy me would never put up with her behavior - even sober she had a emotional range of a 8 yr old. He empashised that love was 50/50 and not" work" that if I didnt leave her it would quite literally kill me.
And i read these forums I started to believe again and something switched on again. I DESERVE BETTER and I do. Oh what a feeling to believe again.
My Ex could do anything and my care faactor would be zip.
For those struggling persevere, we only have one life. The emotional tenctacles of a AH are so strong but break them and the sun will shine again.
Experience is a hard teacher but I would never date a AH recovering or not. Its just my view but one borne of 3 rehabs( for my ex), 3 duis for my ex, the loss of all friends and the attempt to destroy my soul.
Take Care
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Originally Posted by webber1 
For those struggling persevere, we only have one life. The emotional tenctacles of a AH are so strong but break them and the sun will shine again.
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