January 7 in The Little Blue Book ONE DAY at a TIME in AL-ANON
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January 7 in The Little Blue Book ONE DAY at a TIME in AL-ANON
January 7 in The Little Blue Book ONE DAY at a TIME in AL-ANON:
Someone said something unkind about me. Are my feelings hurt? Yes. Should they be? No. Now do I overcome my hurt? By detaching myself, “turning it off,” until I can figure out what lies behind it. If it was retaliation for an unkindness I did, let me correct my fault. If not, I have no responsibility in the matter. Should I ignore or challenge? No, I will let it go; least said, soonest mended. Nothing can hurt me unless I allow it to. When I am pained by anything that happens outside of myself, it is not that thing which hurts me, but the way I think and feel about it.
TODAY’S REMINDER
Let me not take to myself, and suffer over, the actions and reactions of other people. Other adult human beings are not my responsibility, no matter how closely their lives may be intertwined with mine. I will not allow myself to be troubled by anyone else; my one problem is to improve my own way of living and looking at life.
“God teach me to detach my mind from what others say and do, except to draw helpful lessons and guidance from them.”
Someone said something unkind about me. Are my feelings hurt? Yes. Should they be? No. Now do I overcome my hurt? By detaching myself, “turning it off,” until I can figure out what lies behind it. If it was retaliation for an unkindness I did, let me correct my fault. If not, I have no responsibility in the matter. Should I ignore or challenge? No, I will let it go; least said, soonest mended. Nothing can hurt me unless I allow it to. When I am pained by anything that happens outside of myself, it is not that thing which hurts me, but the way I think and feel about it.
TODAY’S REMINDER
Let me not take to myself, and suffer over, the actions and reactions of other people. Other adult human beings are not my responsibility, no matter how closely their lives may be intertwined with mine. I will not allow myself to be troubled by anyone else; my one problem is to improve my own way of living and looking at life.
“God teach me to detach my mind from what others say and do, except to draw helpful lessons and guidance from them.”
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Lately, I've been reacting in anger because I've been feeling hurt. I'm hurt because the love of my life is rejecting me. I'm hurt that he would throw everything and all the good things that we've shared away. I'm realizing that my anger is just a reaction and not an action that I am proud of or that one would call coming out of serenity. So how do I stop this angry reaction? Well, for one... I'm learning to care for myself and to remind my "inner child" that I'm here and that I will not desert it. Reaching out to girl friends and sharing my hurt feelings has done wonders to lift my mood.
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