Addiction is ugly--prayers needed
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Addiction is ugly--prayers needed
My son was shot at (bullet missed but went through his collar) and pistol whipped about the head on Wednesday. Head lacerations and defensive wounds on his hands, crushed index finger. Emergency surgery to save the finger and stitches to close the wounds on his head and face.
I was able to see him briefly after surgery to hug him and tell him I love him. I offered help to get him into a detox/rehab. He refused. It was a calm and loving (although brief) exchange.
He left the hospital Thursday morning against medical advice and has texted me that he is going to die or kill someone. I don't know where he is.
I am trying very hard to stay calm but serenity has definitely been disrupted.
Prayers would be very much appreciated.
as well as some gentle hugs
ke
I was able to see him briefly after surgery to hug him and tell him I love him. I offered help to get him into a detox/rehab. He refused. It was a calm and loving (although brief) exchange.
He left the hospital Thursday morning against medical advice and has texted me that he is going to die or kill someone. I don't know where he is.
I am trying very hard to stay calm but serenity has definitely been disrupted.
Prayers would be very much appreciated.
as well as some gentle hugs
ke
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Oh, Kindeyes, I am so sorry you are going through this.
I don't have a lot to offer you ESH-wise on this one but I will be thinking about you today and will light a candle for you. Breathe, eat well, lots of water, go for a walk.
Good luck.
I don't have a lot to offer you ESH-wise on this one but I will be thinking about you today and will light a candle for you. Breathe, eat well, lots of water, go for a walk.
Good luck.
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KE I am so sorry you are going through this. And just as sorry for your son.
I left the Catholic Church many many years ago. However, I have found over the years that 'praying' to certain 'Saints' that the Church has canonized has helped both myself and others.
Therefore, there is Saint Monica who has been the Patron Saint of Alcoholics for years. There is Matt Talbot that the church is in the process of cannonizing as a Patron Saint of Alcoholics and Addicts for all the work he did during his recovery years in Ireland for Alcoholic and addiicts.
And now there is evidence The Vatican is receiving that quite a few 'Catholics' that are addicts and alocholics have been praying to Saint Jude Thaddeus, yes Saint Jude, and getting 'good' results.
So, am sending out good thoughts and prayers to the above Saints and 'pending' Saint for you, your son, and your whole family.
Love and hugs,
ps: I know that St Jude's Hospital that Danny Thomas started is for children with cancer. However, it seems that Saint Jude helps all that are afflicted, so am definitely including St. Jude!
I left the Catholic Church many many years ago. However, I have found over the years that 'praying' to certain 'Saints' that the Church has canonized has helped both myself and others.
Therefore, there is Saint Monica who has been the Patron Saint of Alcoholics for years. There is Matt Talbot that the church is in the process of cannonizing as a Patron Saint of Alcoholics and Addicts for all the work he did during his recovery years in Ireland for Alcoholic and addiicts.
And now there is evidence The Vatican is receiving that quite a few 'Catholics' that are addicts and alocholics have been praying to Saint Jude Thaddeus, yes Saint Jude, and getting 'good' results.
So, am sending out good thoughts and prayers to the above Saints and 'pending' Saint for you, your son, and your whole family.
Love and hugs,
ps: I know that St Jude's Hospital that Danny Thomas started is for children with cancer. However, it seems that Saint Jude helps all that are afflicted, so am definitely including St. Jude!
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I was thinking about that too. if you could find out if perhaps your son needs to be in jail, which is safer than where he is right now. awful to say that, but it sounds like he is not thinking straight right now. guess the drugs are in control, and i pray that he can use a bit of self-preservation judgement.
prayers going up KE-
loving hugs too
prayers going up KE-
loving hugs too
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Dear Kindeyes,
My heart goes out to you....I certainly understand how devastating it is to watch someone you love "unknowingly" self-destruct right before your very eyes...
I can only begin to imagine the anguish you must be feeling...
Of course, I will keep you and your son in my thoughts and prayers today...
I noticed that someone else shared that he may be better off in jail...
As hard as that is to envision for your beloved son, he may better off, indeed.
At least it will get him off the streets and perhaps if he suffers some of the "natural consequences" of being without his drug of choice, it may catapult him into recovery.
Unfortunately, addiction is a progressive disease and therefore, it sometimes has to get worse before it gets better...
Have you ever considered attending Al-Anon?
Being around others (in person) that have gone through the some of the same things you are experiencing may be a real comfort to you during this difficult time...
Feel free to write me anytime....
May God Bless you and your son and keep you always....
Diva 76
My heart goes out to you....I certainly understand how devastating it is to watch someone you love "unknowingly" self-destruct right before your very eyes...
I can only begin to imagine the anguish you must be feeling...
Of course, I will keep you and your son in my thoughts and prayers today...
I noticed that someone else shared that he may be better off in jail...
As hard as that is to envision for your beloved son, he may better off, indeed.
At least it will get him off the streets and perhaps if he suffers some of the "natural consequences" of being without his drug of choice, it may catapult him into recovery.
Unfortunately, addiction is a progressive disease and therefore, it sometimes has to get worse before it gets better...
Have you ever considered attending Al-Anon?
Being around others (in person) that have gone through the some of the same things you are experiencing may be a real comfort to you during this difficult time...
Feel free to write me anytime....
May God Bless you and your son and keep you always....
Diva 76
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I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Thinking about you and your son today. Find a quiet place, sit down, close your eyes and say the serenity prayer. Hoping you find some peace in knowing that the big man upstairs has a plan for all of us. Gentle hugs and prayers for you and your son.
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I'm praying very hard for you and your son.
Remember when my son had that horrible eye injury where he finally lost his eye? After much thought, I think it is more likely that he was involved in a fight over drugs. So I have been where you are at. My son also did not take up the offer for help at that time.
Kindeyes, your work on your own recovery will move you through this. Step work does not take away our problems - it just makes them more manageable. Yes, even these very scary ones.
((((Hugs)))))
Sojourner
Remember when my son had that horrible eye injury where he finally lost his eye? After much thought, I think it is more likely that he was involved in a fight over drugs. So I have been where you are at. My son also did not take up the offer for help at that time.
Kindeyes, your work on your own recovery will move you through this. Step work does not take away our problems - it just makes them more manageable. Yes, even these very scary ones.
((((Hugs)))))
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So sorry. I can imagine what you are going through. I know that your son and mine share the same DOC and the effect it has on behavior and thought processes is awful. I will pray for you and for your son.
As others have said, I wonder if you should contact the police. From the content of the text, it sounds like he is a danger to himself and/or others. It's tricky because one of the things we learn in recovery is not to try to create a crisis to try to control someone, but I don't think that would be the case here. I'm sure that you've considered that and will do whatever is the right thing.
Just keep looking to your Higher Power, turn you son over to God, and breathe. Again, I am so sorry that this happened.
As others have said, I wonder if you should contact the police. From the content of the text, it sounds like he is a danger to himself and/or others. It's tricky because one of the things we learn in recovery is not to try to create a crisis to try to control someone, but I don't think that would be the case here. I'm sure that you've considered that and will do whatever is the right thing.
Just keep looking to your Higher Power, turn you son over to God, and breathe. Again, I am so sorry that this happened.
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