I failed!
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: the high desert
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Quitting is easy. It is the staying quit part that is hard. You didn't fail. You had a false start. The big thing is that you have realized you need to quit. So just keep working at it. Find a program/plan of recovery that will work for you. Write down why you want to quit. Write down how you feel when you drink. Keep a recovery journal, with starts and stops if need be.
Many people don't stay sober the first time they try. Don't think of yourself as failing, just as taking a few steps, slipping and getting back up and on your way.
Many people don't stay sober the first time they try. Don't think of yourself as failing, just as taking a few steps, slipping and getting back up and on your way.
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Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: « USA » Recovered with AVRT (Rational Recovery) ___________
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I will give you a word of advice from personal experience. Whenever I quit on a trial basis, I failed. Yes, I would say "that's it, no more drinking," but really I was thinking "OK, let's try this not drinking thing for a month or two, and if it goes well, then I'll consider making it permanent."
The problem with that approach was that things would get better, but in time, life would throw me a curb-ball, and I would think "well, this not drinking isn't going very well," and I would be back at it. It was only when I decided it had to be permanent that I put an end to that cycle.
What is your plan now? What will you do differently?
The problem with that approach was that things would get better, but in time, life would throw me a curb-ball, and I would think "well, this not drinking isn't going very well," and I would be back at it. It was only when I decided it had to be permanent that I put an end to that cycle.
What is your plan now? What will you do differently?
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 27
Thank you, all! New day, new attitude. Can't change what happened on Monday night, but I can control what will happen tonight. I joined a gym in my work building so I plan working out after work. This will hopefully give me the muscles and the balls to say no to alcohol :-)
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Pensacola, Florida
Posts: 1,516
It has taken me MANY attempts and years to get it to "stick". The little engine that could always comes to mind. Never Ever give up!!!!! Find your path. Find the one thing that makes you happy and follow it. You will soon find there are more reasons to follow your path. Good luck on your journey.
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Englishrose70
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Melbourne
Posts: 190
Every single person reading this thread can relate 100%. If we had all succeeded first time out then I doubt this forum, AA or AVRT programmes would exist.
You came back, so you havent quit, just a little stumble on the road but you are heading in the right direction Lawyer.
Remember we are with you!
You came back, so you havent quit, just a little stumble on the road but you are heading in the right direction Lawyer.
Remember we are with you!
SoberOutlook
Join Date: Mar 2011
Posts: 3,089
No reason to rue the fall, just dust off and start again. This is something that is both achievable and rewarding, and a slip doesn't have to become a full-blown relapse when you start fresh the next day, as you have. I think I'm the relapse king, but I'm now on day 4 and starting to feel fresh again.
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Washington
Posts: 456
I'm sorry you relapsed...
When you drank, what did you expect it to do for you?
Did you get it?
What else came along with it?
Think about your reasons of wanting to quit in the first place.
Learn from the experience and move on. Many of us have tried and failed before we tried and it seemed to "stick."
-All the best
When you drank, what did you expect it to do for you?
Did you get it?
What else came along with it?
Think about your reasons of wanting to quit in the first place.
Learn from the experience and move on. Many of us have tried and failed before we tried and it seemed to "stick."
-All the best
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