Elphaba

I recently read a book that touched on passivity and excessive drinking, and it really struck a cord within me. Instead of seeking out, or speaking up for what I want and need, I drown my dissatisfaction in life with alcohol which leads to either self loathing or blame on other people. The more I drink the more inert I become. This is so simple yet astoundingly powerful for me. Instead of white knuckling it through cravings, I need to ask myself what specific need or want is not being met, or what delusion am I buying into.

MycoolFitz

Good thinking and insight. Whether its passivity or whatever our personal ghost may be we tend to drink and use to keep it abay. And its all for naught 'cause when we come to its still there to go "Boo".

sugarbear1

Lack of motivation, not being a contributing member of life, not living...hmmm. sounds like the beginning of depression caused by drinking a depressant.

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Anna

Oh yes, I was taught from early childhood to never ask for anything and that my needs were irrelevant.

I think low self-esteem is often at the root of addiction.

Dee74

I agree with Anna - low self esteem was definitely at the root of my addiction.

I turned to alcohol as a solution for a lot of things...and it seemed to work for a while...
We all know how that story ends.

Absolutely. I wish I'd tackled my problems all those years ago instead of drinking - but the good news is - it's never too late Elphaba

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Reset

Sounds very familiar. Thanks for sharing that.

artsoul

That's a great insight!! We always want to change who we are and how we feel instead of listening to, and appreciating who we are.

For me it came out in perfectionism and people-pleasing. I never stopped to find out how I really felt because I had this image in my head about what I "should" be.

Thanks for sharing this! Definitely a lightbulb moment!