ex-MIL told my 8 year old...
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Join Date: Mar 2008
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ex-MIL told my 8 year old...
that when she gets upset, it makes her daddy eat more and smoke more.
What. the. eff? Thankfully we were on our way to my kids' therapy session when she told me... the therapist helped me explain to her that she CAN'T CONTROL DADDY. My ex isn't a drinker, he's a pot smoker and has porn addiction, so it's not like I can tell my sheltered child exactly WHAT Daddy's problems are. BUT I called my ex husband tonight and told him what our daughter said, and he just quacked and said "Well, then, I guess I'd weigh 1,000 lbs and smoke 400 cigarettes a day" and then complained about our kids being in therapy (I pay the co-pays, but it's through his health insurance; still makes no sense why he'd complain about it?).
Anyway, I just see how unhealthy that whole family is and my kids only have to see them every other weekend but still.... I feel like my 8 year old is already such a co-dependent and this doesn't help the situation!!
I am going to have to call my ex-MIL eventually, but she is crazier than crazy and will start screaming at me. She also grills my kids about me and my life and my boyfriend. Told my ex that if he has ANY questions or concerns about who I bring around our kids that's fine, but it isn't healthy for his mom to be grilling them, they are children!! She is sicker than he is, always was (sigh).
OK, I'm done with my rant.
What. the. eff? Thankfully we were on our way to my kids' therapy session when she told me... the therapist helped me explain to her that she CAN'T CONTROL DADDY. My ex isn't a drinker, he's a pot smoker and has porn addiction, so it's not like I can tell my sheltered child exactly WHAT Daddy's problems are. BUT I called my ex husband tonight and told him what our daughter said, and he just quacked and said "Well, then, I guess I'd weigh 1,000 lbs and smoke 400 cigarettes a day" and then complained about our kids being in therapy (I pay the co-pays, but it's through his health insurance; still makes no sense why he'd complain about it?).
Anyway, I just see how unhealthy that whole family is and my kids only have to see them every other weekend but still.... I feel like my 8 year old is already such a co-dependent and this doesn't help the situation!!
I am going to have to call my ex-MIL eventually, but she is crazier than crazy and will start screaming at me. She also grills my kids about me and my life and my boyfriend. Told my ex that if he has ANY questions or concerns about who I bring around our kids that's fine, but it isn't healthy for his mom to be grilling them, they are children!! She is sicker than he is, always was (sigh).
OK, I'm done with my rant.
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Join Date: Nov 2010
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Do you have any king of support other than SR like maybe Al-Anon?
At least you know not to call till the situation is calmed down a bit, that is a lot of growth.
Glad you have SR to vent that is why many of us are here.
Peace & blessings
At least you know not to call till the situation is calmed down a bit, that is a lot of growth.
Glad you have SR to vent that is why many of us are here.
Peace & blessings
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Kansas
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Good grief, what a thing to tell a child!
I know that Alanon has helped me tremendously in dealing with people in general, especially dysfunctional ones.
I'm glad your children are in therapy. You're a great mom!
I know that Alanon has helped me tremendously in dealing with people in general, especially dysfunctional ones.
I'm glad your children are in therapy. You're a great mom!
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Hope the therapist is documenting this. It's an awful thing to tell a child.
I don't know what kind of custody/visitation agreement or order you have, but it looks like limiting contact with G/M so long as she does stuff like that might be in order.
I don't know what kind of custody/visitation agreement or order you have, but it looks like limiting contact with G/M so long as she does stuff like that might be in order.
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Can you restrict the time your kids spend with their grandmother? I would tell her point blank that if she can't behave as a grown up with some common sense around your kids then she doesn't get to be around them at all, full stop.
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