Worthless experiement...or not?
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Worthless experiement...or not?
So...I said that I had that 12 pack of Bud Light still. today, I had one. It didn't taste nearly as good as it usually does. Which is a good thing. However, I gave up my 7 days of not drinking in order to figure that out. So I feel kinda lame. But, it was a good thing to do that to find out that it just didn't taste as good anymore...right? I didn't even drink the whole thing...dumped out about half the can. But, I still have to count it as drinkign and start over tomorrow.
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Thats exactly what I did when I had booze in the house K...and even when I didn't particularly like the first one I soon polished off the rest.
You're at a crossroads I think. What you do now is very important.
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You're at a crossroads I think. What you do now is very important.
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Yeah, I could never 'consider' quitting without not having ANY booze in the house. That's not quitting -it's merely stopping. Pour the rest out....and please try again. IT will always be in the back of your mind if you know its there.
I know you can do it if you try hard enough -you did make it 7 days, right?
I know you can do it if you try hard enough -you did make it 7 days, right?
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Yeah, 7 days. And actually, last fall I made it a couple months. I know i can do it. I do need to get it all out of the house. I think that there are going to have to be a lot of changes in order for this to work...but unfortunatly, they are not all within my control...
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A lot of members here live with drinkers, or work in restaurants or bars or liquor stores or are musicians or whatever K...
sometimes things are not ideal for quitting (is there ever a good time?) but I believe nothing's a deal breaker if you really want to be sober
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sometimes things are not ideal for quitting (is there ever a good time?) but I believe nothing's a deal breaker if you really want to be sober
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Yeah, Dee is right. Things are not always ideal for us to stop drinking. It's a question of wanting it badly enough.
And, I think keeping alcohol in the house is such a bad idea. Years later, I still don't ever have alcohol in the house.
And, I think keeping alcohol in the house is such a bad idea. Years later, I still don't ever have alcohol in the house.
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I have to admit that (even if you knew you would pour the rest of the beer out), it seems like a strange experiment....... but then that alcoholic part of us has all kinds of crazy justifications for taking a drink.
Do you know what lead up to that point and why you're holding onto that 12 pack?
Do you know what lead up to that point and why you're holding onto that 12 pack?
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Originally Posted by artsoul 
Do you know what lead up to that point and why you're holding onto that 12 pack?
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i think you are still "romancing" your drinking....why don't you put some energy into remaining sober???? what is it going to take for you? do you really want to test the waters by continuing to drink if you know what may happen?
please remember your DUI and all the problems that go with your drinking....toss the beer and believe in yourself.
please remember your DUI and all the problems that go with your drinking....toss the beer and believe in yourself.
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I need to quit. It's the only way that i am going to get through all this stuff in my life. I need to face what is going on with a clear mind, and drinking does not allow that. I need to take the energy that I have put into drinking, and focus it on working out and working (although tomorrow is day 8 in a row, so Idk how much more energy I can focus there). I feel like, between drinking and worrying about my marriage, all my energy is gone. But, if I can back off on both, and focus more on bettering myself, I think I will be ok. That's what I started to do back in the Fall, and it got me through a couple months of sobriety. I just need to hold onto it this time.
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The truth is, sobreity isn't a race with a finish line. Whether you say you have a week, or are starting over, you are where you are. I know it's said over and over, but all any of us have it today. Do we want to be active in our disease or do we want to be in recovery?
It's taken me a long time to figure that out. When I was a week, or 30 days, or 90 days, etc I always looked at others and thought I would be cured when I had "what they have". It seemed like the struggle would be over when I could just get where they are. Everyone that I shared that with told me the same thing I'm telling you. It really is a day at a time.
My goal is just to not drink for the day. Each morning I ask my HP to help me do his will and not mine and to keep me sober. Shifting my focus off of "how many days I have" to making the most of the day I am living, has made my life better, my sobriety a little easier to keep in perspective, and my recovery much stronger.
Most of us don't end up at SR because we haven't experamented enough. I experameted for 20 years before getting here. Why waste another second proving what I already know - I am an alcoholic and without recovery I am hopeless.
Don't know if that helps. I wish you the best...
It's taken me a long time to figure that out. When I was a week, or 30 days, or 90 days, etc I always looked at others and thought I would be cured when I had "what they have". It seemed like the struggle would be over when I could just get where they are. Everyone that I shared that with told me the same thing I'm telling you. It really is a day at a time.
My goal is just to not drink for the day. Each morning I ask my HP to help me do his will and not mine and to keep me sober. Shifting my focus off of "how many days I have" to making the most of the day I am living, has made my life better, my sobriety a little easier to keep in perspective, and my recovery much stronger.
Most of us don't end up at SR because we haven't experamented enough. I experameted for 20 years before getting here. Why waste another second proving what I already know - I am an alcoholic and without recovery I am hopeless.
Don't know if that helps. I wish you the best...
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Really? You think that if you do the same thing that didn't work last time, it will work this time?
Is that like the "let's see how this tastes and if it isn't good then I can quit drinking" experiment?
I don't mean to be harsh, but these don't sound like very workable plans for getting sober and staying that way. Seems to me something a bit more, um, RADICAL is in order. Like getting rid of every drop of booze in the house and throwing every ounce of your being into your recovery--whether that is with outpatient treatment, rehab, AA, or whatever method you choose.
Is that like the "let's see how this tastes and if it isn't good then I can quit drinking" experiment?
I don't mean to be harsh, but these don't sound like very workable plans for getting sober and staying that way. Seems to me something a bit more, um, RADICAL is in order. Like getting rid of every drop of booze in the house and throwing every ounce of your being into your recovery--whether that is with outpatient treatment, rehab, AA, or whatever method you choose.
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Yes, these experiments always turn out the same, not good. What happened to selling the beer to a friend? I have seen this over and over again. You hung on to the beer because you are going to drink it. Alcoholics don't drink for the taste of it. They drink to get drunk. So you now say it doesn't taste good to you. That will not be the end of it. What if you try your experiment again and it does taste good? Then you will be off and running and who knows what will happen then? The scenario pretty much remains the same. You won't like it, or someone won't, I'm willing to bet. Sorry for being so blunt, but this has got to stop. Most of us have already been through this and know how it ends. Give up the experiments and try something that has worked for others. You have a few options. If you are serious you will get serious. Best wishes...
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Originally Posted by trixieisme
I need to quit. I need to take the energy that I have put into drinking, and focus it on working out and working (although tomorrow is day 8 in a row, so Idk how much more energy I can focus there)
The biggest part of my disease that was killing me was my self absorbtion. I tried to fix me by thinking about me 24/7. I need this, I should do that, If I look like this then all will be better. The truth is I win by doing for others. By helping other alcoholics, by doing nice things for my wife when she doesn't ask, by being there for my kids all the time, by asking God to help me get rid of my defects of character - ego, greed, lust, etc... By doing these things I forget about me. When I realize how small a role I play in my outside world it allows me to focus on what's really important. By focusing on those things I finally feel OK in my own skin and no longer need alcohol to create that world for me.
That is when I have found I "get better". I'm not saying that working out is bad, because it's clearly not. I just used to think it was the cure all. And when I viewed it like that it was just more of the same acloholic thinking that was ruining my life and killing me.
I am 100% convinced we get better when we start thinking of ourselves less and others more - and then follow up the thoughts with actions.
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Originally Posted by reggiewayne
I am 100% convinced we get better when we start thinking of ourselves less and others more - and then follow up the thoughts with actions.
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Your DUI was, what, a week ago, and now you're taste-testing beer?? Sounds like a whole lotta rationalization goin' on... I'd think the DUI would have scared the taste out of your mouth but apparently not... I hope you're done now...
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