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Big Book Quote
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"If there be divorce or separation, there should be no undue haste
for the couple to get together. The man should be sure of his
recovery. The wife should fully understand his new way of life. If
their old relationship is to be resumed it must be on a better basis,
since the former did not work. This means a new attitude and spirit
all around. Sometimes it is to the best interests of all concerned
that a couple remain apart. Obviously, no rule can be laid down.
Let the alcoholic continue his program day by day. When the time for
living together has come, it will be apparent to both parties."
Alcoholics Anonymous, 1st. Edition,
Working With Others, Page 99
"If there be divorce or separation, there should be no undue haste
for the couple to get together. The man should be sure of his
recovery. The wife should fully understand his new way of life. If
their old relationship is to be resumed it must be on a better basis,
since the former did not work. This means a new attitude and spirit
all around. Sometimes it is to the best interests of all concerned
that a couple remain apart. Obviously, no rule can be laid down.
Let the alcoholic continue his program day by day. When the time for
living together has come, it will be apparent to both parties."
Alcoholics Anonymous, 1st. Edition,
Working With Others, Page 99
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I think this is an individual thing. I've seen alcoholics while drinking have the job, the money, the spouse, the kids, the nice house. Then they get sober and lose the job, the money, the family, the nice house. But they still have their sobriety.
The way I look at it, if the alcoholic achieves sobriety then they are a success. Anything extra, such as the job, money, family, nice house, is an extra benefit. But if they don't have those things then I still think they are a success for staying sober.
The way I look at it, if the alcoholic achieves sobriety then they are a success. Anything extra, such as the job, money, family, nice house, is an extra benefit. But if they don't have those things then I still think they are a success for staying sober.
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The post today really hits home. I was told by my wife while I was in Detox that she was emotionally depleted, had no more to give me, and that we would eventually end up divorced.
We are in the process of trying to figure out finances and get to a place where we have a plan for where to live before we tell our 9 year old daughter.
It was tough for me to accept that my marriage might be over, but once I came to terms with that possibility I was able to move forward and get some peace.
PS - If there is anyone out there that went through a divorce in early sobriety feel free to PM me. I am looking for someone to communicate with that has been through the experience.
We are in the process of trying to figure out finances and get to a place where we have a plan for where to live before we tell our 9 year old daughter.
It was tough for me to accept that my marriage might be over, but once I came to terms with that possibility I was able to move forward and get some peace.
PS - If there is anyone out there that went through a divorce in early sobriety feel free to PM me. I am looking for someone to communicate with that has been through the experience.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
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Richard....sorry to know of the situation...
I was happily divorced before my alcholism surfaced
and have remained so by choice in recovery.
I simply have no experience to share
Blessings to the 3 of you
Prayers coming your way
Glad to see you here in this Forum...
I was happily divorced before my alcholism surfaced
and have remained so by choice in recovery.
I simply have no experience to share
Blessings to the 3 of you
Prayers coming your way
Glad to see you here in this Forum...
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Originally Posted by richard7 
The post today really hits home. I was told by my wife while I was in Detox that she was emotionally depleted, had no more to give me, and that we would eventually end up divorced.
We are in the process of trying to figure out finances and get to a place where we have a plan for where to live before we tell our 9 year old daughter.
It was tough for me to accept that my marriage might be over, but once I came to terms with that possibility I was able to move forward and get some peace.
PS - If there is anyone out there that went through a divorce in early sobriety feel free to PM me. I am looking for someone to communicate with that has been through the experience.
We are in the process of trying to figure out finances and get to a place where we have a plan for where to live before we tell our 9 year old daughter.
It was tough for me to accept that my marriage might be over, but once I came to terms with that possibility I was able to move forward and get some peace.
PS - If there is anyone out there that went through a divorce in early sobriety feel free to PM me. I am looking for someone to communicate with that has been through the experience.
Most of my changes came through AA meetings and working the steps and getting out of my dry drunk. We worked it out and our marriage is fine now. I don't know if you already tried counseling, but if you haven't I think both of you should try it. I've always been told to try to save a marriage.
I would suggest to also work hard at your recovery and try to change with God's help and meetings. With God's help anything is possible.
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