oshkoshberjosh

I confronted my romantic interest on whether he has continued to relapse.

He admitted to it. I told him the things I have noticed that have changed about him over the last 2.5 months. He said there could be other explanations for the changes that I have noticed, though he didn't deny that the relapsing could be part of it. He said he was hurt that I immediately assumed these changed were because of his relapse, and not something to do with "us".

He says he is trying to figure out whether he can drink a bit, or whether he just cant drink at all. I think the question he should be asking is whether he feels the NEED to drink.

I'm heartbroken, but not particularly shocked. I think maybe going to an alanon meeting would help me.

Freedom1990

I think Alanon would be a great idea.

He's going to do what he's going to do.

Ann

Al-anon would be a wonderful gift to give yourself, I promise.

I'm sorry your suspicions were confirmed, funny how our gut just knows.

Now that you know the problem, try living in the solution (your recovery). It's a much nicer place to be.

Hugs

keepinon

Allanon is just a good way to live.. can only help:ghug3

dollydo

Embrace those meetings, sure can't hurt!

rayofsunshine

Sadly, this is part of the cycle of the disease. You ask, they admit, they promise to do better. They may for a while, then it repeats, usually getting worse down the road.
I tried my best to control the situation with my exAH, thought it would get better.
Finally learned I couldn't control him... the only person I can control is myself.

Ala-non meetings will help you so much! and keep reading and posting here!