Elsie

So, ABF is still sober.
But the discussion of Dr's appointments have come up again.
I posted about his health issues in previous threads. He's supposed to go to a physical and also bring up the fact that I recently had to call 911 for him because he was having very bad chest pains and was having trouble breathing etc.
He spoke about cancelling the appointment last night. I'm so disappointed.
I mean...I get it now...I cannot force him to go.

Now tonight, he's asking me to not bring up his health issues to him for the next 6 months. He said he wants some time to see what he can do himself.

I don't know what to think or do now!
How do I do this? Yes, ok...detatchment, but when I do that he gets freaked out and says I'm ignoring him. Maybe I'm not doing it right!
How do I live the next 6 months with someone who is in denial about thier health?
Is this fair? Is he being fair to me? If I'm in a relationship with this guy, then I feel it IS my business....he could drop dead from something...something that could be prevented if he saw his Dr and got help. Is it fair for me to carry on like this isn't a possibility?
How can I do this? Or, how can I detatch in such a way that he won't flip out and say I'm ignoring him?

barb dwyer

well, then -
maybe go take a class or something.
I used to be all ABOUT those adult ed classes.

and somewhere in there,
make it understood that
you're not going to sit around and wait
for these 'in the distance' results, either.

So he'd be smart to find his OWN way to call 911, huh?

Cuz you're gonna be off ... I dunno.. learning French or something.

is that a solution?