outtolunch

Daughter moved her clothes out in a hefty bag, today. This was sudden. She left her books behind and finals are next week. The filthy guy, sitting in the car, in our driveway, looked like a wasted addict.

She has no money, no phone, no job, no car, no insurance and now, no address.

We gave her the gift of opportunity. She rejected it.

I am OK. I cannot help someone who will not help themselves.

sojourner

things look bad right now, but keep coming back. so many of us have been where you're at. The recovering addicts among us will tell you that you did the right thing and that when people held them accountable in their using days, it was the best thing that could have happened.

BTW, addict designer luggage = large plastic garbage bags

Hugs to you.

Impurrfect

(((OOL)))

I'm glad you're okay. Even though I LIVED that life, I still can't understand how I thought that it was okay that I did that stuff, if that makes sense.

I mean, I can read this, and vaguely remember when I would think "yep, let's go..no plans, no money, no car, just me and him...we LOVE each other, we'll be okay" and take off. But the sensible side of me now says "WTF were you thinking?!?!?!" It's so hard to admit I wasn't thinking. Period.

Thank you, so much, for reminding me of what I've left behind, but keeping it fresh in my mind so that I can detach from those who are still in active addiction.

Hugs and prayers!

Amy

Chino

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, that better days begin very soon.

winnie12

i'm so sorry to hear this - i know how it breaks your heart. just remember its her journey and she's going to have to learn these things the hard way.

cece1960

Its her choice, as wrong a choice it may be.

You gave her the chance to make better decisions.

I have trouble with 'throwing" my son out. But if he chooses to leave (and he has), I find conmfort in the fact that at the very least, he is respecting some boundaries.

I'm sorry (((out))). Its just not her time.

Prayers that she makes better decisions down the road.

Freedom1990

I am so sorry. My parents gave me lots of opportunities too, but I wasn't ready for a long time.

It had nothing to do with them, and everything to do with me and my addictions.

:ghug :ghug

MyJoey

Ouch! I know it must hurt, but really what can you do, but wait till she lets this run its course and hits bottom. Lets hope its soon. (((Hugs)))

outtolunch

Thanks for making me see some humor, in this.

JMFburns

OTL,

Sorry to hear about your daughter and her choice.

But amazed to read your post and hear no anxiety, fear, dread in it. Just some sadness that your daughter hasn't chosen the path you hoped she would. Good recovery under your belt. You're in my thoughts.

Joan

outtolunch

Thank you. It's probably obvious, this is not my first time down this road.
I depeleted my lifetime allotment of crying, fear, worry, anxiety, stalking, begging, bribing and believing I could love her/ will her sober. I am not angry-just saddened by her choices.

Ann

She did this time, but we (you and I and all codie moms) do not hold the monopoly on opportunities. There are opportunities out there for her every day, they are called AA meetings, NA meetings, detox facilities, rehabs, and day programs and counseling.

`We` are not her only option, I know you already know that but thought I`d remind you because when I get upset I forget too.

Your recovery is shining, even during sad and bad times. My prayers go out for your daughter, that she finds a better path soon and does the work she needs to do to walk it.

Big Mama-Sized Hugs

PeaceTrain

OTL, sorry that your daughter chose the path she has chosen for now. Perhaps the fact that finals were coming up, was her reason to get back to the ole lifestyle.
All of the opportunities given to our children - rehabs, counselling, meeting, etc. are tools that they can use, if not now, perhaps in the future. There is always hope and prayers -- Best Wishes.

Callie

OTL - so sorry she's down that path again. You've done everything that you can for her - the rest is in your hands. Addiction is such a manipulative, cunning disease. You sound strong and for that I'm glad. Hugs to you.