Making Friends in Recovery
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Join Date: Jul 2007
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Making Friends in Recovery
I have a question for those of you in recovery. Do you find it fairly easy to make friends, true friends, in a recovery program? As in, people you can call just to talk with, or to go out to coffee or a movie or dinner with? If so, how did you/do you go about doing that?
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
What I did....
Yes...I now have solid friends to hang out with.
At first...I did not meet anyone as I went in a meeting
1 minute before it started...and left quickly at closing.
I was rushing too much.
I found an AA group of mostly singles because I was single.
It met hours before I had to be at work.
I went 15 minutes early and helped make coffee.
I stayed 15 minutes later to help close up.
Within a few weeks...I had lots of phone numbers
Members were inviting me to outside activities ...
about 12 of us did all sorts of things.
We had a blast and years later...I still talk with
a few of them tho I've moved far away.
I have done this ...:go early..leave late" with good
success when I have relocated.
I think it's important to remember ...all of us like
to have friends. So I try to be friendly.
I also think it's important to find women to hang with
rather than men. I took a year off dating in
early sobriety. It worked out quite well for me..
Yes...I now have solid friends to hang out with.
At first...I did not meet anyone as I went in a meeting
1 minute before it started...and left quickly at closing.
I was rushing too much.
I found an AA group of mostly singles because I was single.
It met hours before I had to be at work.
I went 15 minutes early and helped make coffee.
I stayed 15 minutes later to help close up.
Within a few weeks...I had lots of phone numbers
Members were inviting me to outside activities ...
about 12 of us did all sorts of things.
We had a blast and years later...I still talk with
a few of them tho I've moved far away.
I have done this ...:go early..leave late" with good
success when I have relocated.
I think it's important to remember ...all of us like
to have friends. So I try to be friendly.
I also think it's important to find women to hang with
rather than men. I took a year off dating in
early sobriety. It worked out quite well for me..
Stopping the Train...
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Sevierville, TN - in the valley of the Great Smoky Mountains
Posts: 978
VERY much so! These are now my closest friends - and have replaced those friends NOT in recovery for wanting to be surrounded by recovery.
There are no other women in recovery here, but I have a lot in common with the guys (video games, action/thriller/comedy movies, going to outside meetings and more). Even DH is good with me hangin' out with them (he's in recovery, too...just not the same interests).
Go early - stay late. The best suggestions ever! I often got (and still get) much more outside of the meeting than the meeting itself - and its how we really got to know one another.
There are no other women in recovery here, but I have a lot in common with the guys (video games, action/thriller/comedy movies, going to outside meetings and more). Even DH is good with me hangin' out with them (he's in recovery, too...just not the same interests).
Go early - stay late. The best suggestions ever! I often got (and still get) much more outside of the meeting than the meeting itself - and its how we really got to know one another.
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