sleepygoat

was Ok, actually (no tears or deep depression) , but I kept hoping she would show up at the restaurant or call at the last minute or something.

I have no idea whether she's just pissed off at me (we had an argument a week ago - she was talking a bunch of addict nonsense and I reacted), or she could be in treatment (possibly) and in the no-contact detox thing. She was talking about a rehab that would take her by charity care last week when I saw her. But, no phone call and no news either way. Typical.
I left a "happy thanksgiving, (etc)" text message for her this morning.

My husband and I ate out and wrote gratitude lists! Now I'm at work, which is fine by me.

I hope Christmas has her at least calling and acknowledging her dear old mom! (Poor me!!!) .

Ann

I'm glad you and your husband had a nice dinner out and didn't let her absence drag you down.

I can't count how many special days we didn't know if my son would come to or not, and like you, it got better when I made up my mind to keep the day special and celebrate anyway and not let addiction drag me down too.

Happy Thanksgiving, Sleepygoat, and big hugs.

greeteachday

(((((Sleepy)))))

I'm so glad you made a point of trying to enjoy the time with your husband and I love the idea of the gratitude lists. I still find my thoughts going back 3 years ago to troubling hiolidays sometimes. Not in the way that throws me deep in despair, but to acknowledge some of the feelings and to work past them so they don't taint precious moments to come.

hope213

glad you had a good day. sending prayers for you & your daughter.

marle

Sending prayers that next Thanksgiving will find your daughter in a better place. Glad that you had a nice Thanksgiving. Hugs, Marle

Troubledone

I know all too well how it feels to try to enjoy the holidays while someone I love if "out there" somewhere doing who knows what.

Sounds like you did the healthiest thing available... good for you!

I have noticed that over the last 5 years of my addict's disease, each holiday had it's own weirdness. All we can do is our best - and you did.

Prayers that someday soon your daughter makes it back to a life you can share with her.

Chino

Nothing to add except hugs and prayers for your family.