Insanity
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Insanity
I just have to get this out.
My AH woke me up at 1:00am pounding on my bedroom door yelling that he was bleeding. I open the door to see blood all over him and his ear half-way torn off. He's got some crazy story about being at a party and getting into a crash on the way home -- even though I know he was home all night. He was and is delusional. Rushed to the ER. The ear, nose, & throat specialist was able to reattach the ear. The whole time he is saying things that don't make sense and talking to people who aren't even around. He must have taken something but I don't know what -- I've never seen him like this before. He did tell me yesterday he bought pills from a guy at work. But this is just too crazy. One doctor wanted to keep him for observation but the primary doc gave him something to calm him down and sent us home. There is blood all over the house. He doesn't remember what happened. This is just so sad.
So glad SR is here.
My AH woke me up at 1:00am pounding on my bedroom door yelling that he was bleeding. I open the door to see blood all over him and his ear half-way torn off. He's got some crazy story about being at a party and getting into a crash on the way home -- even though I know he was home all night. He was and is delusional. Rushed to the ER. The ear, nose, & throat specialist was able to reattach the ear. The whole time he is saying things that don't make sense and talking to people who aren't even around. He must have taken something but I don't know what -- I've never seen him like this before. He did tell me yesterday he bought pills from a guy at work. But this is just too crazy. One doctor wanted to keep him for observation but the primary doc gave him something to calm him down and sent us home. There is blood all over the house. He doesn't remember what happened. This is just so sad.
So glad SR is here.
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how terrifying for you and how disappointing that the dr would not keep him for observation and evaluation for what is really going on with AH.
My thoughts & prayers go out for both of you.
Prayers of peace and comfort for you
HUGS,
Rita
My thoughts & prayers go out for both of you.
Prayers of peace and comfort for you
HUGS,
Rita
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Yikes, sorry you had to deal with that insanity.
Too bad he didn't just call 911, too bad they didn't keep him for observation - too bad he isn't able to deal with his addiction on his own.
Sending hugs your way and hoping you take care of yourself.
Too bad he didn't just call 911, too bad they didn't keep him for observation - too bad he isn't able to deal with his addiction on his own.
Sending hugs your way and hoping you take care of yourself.
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Wow
what a rough night.
sometimes ER doctors can only deal with the immediate problem. Its sad because sometimes thats the only time an Addict will seek help is in an emergency, when they don't have a choice, so the real problem is ignored and the emergency symptom is treated.
Sorry for your anxiety, pain, and loss of sleep.
Maybe when his ear hurts so close to his head some reality with sink in it. At least with stitches he can't sober up and forget about it quickly.
what a rough night.
sometimes ER doctors can only deal with the immediate problem. Its sad because sometimes thats the only time an Addict will seek help is in an emergency, when they don't have a choice, so the real problem is ignored and the emergency symptom is treated.
Sorry for your anxiety, pain, and loss of sleep.
Maybe when his ear hurts so close to his head some reality with sink in it. At least with stitches he can't sober up and forget about it quickly.
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Itsatruth-
I am sorry you went through that.
You will probably not like hearing what I am going to say. Take what you like and leave the rest.
Fear is not always a lack of faith- it is a normal, healthy and protective feeling.
I am worried about YOU. If your husband was delusional last night and it appears- sounds like, he hurt himself. I'm sorry but, in my opinion you can not trust him.
It could have been you. To give him a pill to calm him down and send him home with you, was (my opinion) very irresponsible of the medical staff.
He was acting insane- I would not ignore that. If I were you- I would bring him back to the er and request that he be put on a 72 hour hold, so that his mental state can be observed and treated by professionals. Psych professionals.
Just my opinion, but it looks to me, like he is a danger to himself and very possibly could be a danger to you.
Sorry- but I have to tell you, my opinion. This is enabling his disease. Addiction and insanity- don't be confused by the physical blood and emergency doctors. Taking him home and putting him in bed. He needs help. It may not be so easy to get him help in the future. So obvious. To others, to yourself or to him.
Take care.
I am sorry you went through that.
You will probably not like hearing what I am going to say. Take what you like and leave the rest.
Fear is not always a lack of faith- it is a normal, healthy and protective feeling.
I am worried about YOU. If your husband was delusional last night and it appears- sounds like, he hurt himself. I'm sorry but, in my opinion you can not trust him.
It could have been you. To give him a pill to calm him down and send him home with you, was (my opinion) very irresponsible of the medical staff.
He was acting insane- I would not ignore that. If I were you- I would bring him back to the er and request that he be put on a 72 hour hold, so that his mental state can be observed and treated by professionals. Psych professionals.
Just my opinion, but it looks to me, like he is a danger to himself and very possibly could be a danger to you.
Sorry- but I have to tell you, my opinion. This is enabling his disease. Addiction and insanity- don't be confused by the physical blood and emergency doctors. Taking him home and putting him in bed. He needs help. It may not be so easy to get him help in the future. So obvious. To others, to yourself or to him.
Take care.
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(((itsatruth)))
First of all, Wow - glad you made it thru the night. That being said, I have to say that I agree with StillLearning. Hoping you are doing what you need to do to take care of yourself!
First of all, Wow - glad you made it thru the night. That being said, I have to say that I agree with StillLearning. Hoping you are doing what you need to do to take care of yourself!
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Did the staff see him talking to non-existent people? Were they told he took an illegally obtained drug earlier that day? Were they told he's an addict? Did they test his blood? So many questions.
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Black outs (not remembering) are a sign of late stage addiction.
I believe in making addicts accept consequences of their actions - like calling 911 and letting them deal with it (I have friends that have called and left the house). Not going to the ER - in my experience, if there is not a family member with them, often they do keep them - or send them to the local county/state A&D unit. Or commit them under a psych diagnosis for 72 hours.
I also have a healthy respect for addicts that are literally out of their mind - terrible things happen, especially with guns and violence. They have no control, any sane thought processes are gone - my 6'3" 200+ pound husband couldn't subdue my 15 year old drugged up son. That convinced me to get out of the way! And he didn't even remember it.
Those type of experiences helped this codie learn detachment.
Love in recovery,
Jody Hepler
I believe in making addicts accept consequences of their actions - like calling 911 and letting them deal with it (I have friends that have called and left the house). Not going to the ER - in my experience, if there is not a family member with them, often they do keep them - or send them to the local county/state A&D unit. Or commit them under a psych diagnosis for 72 hours.
I also have a healthy respect for addicts that are literally out of their mind - terrible things happen, especially with guns and violence. They have no control, any sane thought processes are gone - my 6'3" 200+ pound husband couldn't subdue my 15 year old drugged up son. That convinced me to get out of the way! And he didn't even remember it.
Those type of experiences helped this codie learn detachment.
Love in recovery,
Jody Hepler
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Oh, I am so sorry you are going thru this. Get yourself to a meeting or someplace that is safe and ask for all the help you need. How frightening. Talk to your doc...see what can be done and most of all... stay safe. HUGS
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"...Black outs (not remembering) are a sign of late stage addiction..."
This is a commonly held misconception.....since all previous studies and surveys regarding blackouts were done only using alcoholics it was concluded that if a person has blackouts that person is an alcoholic.....as the below links show, this is like saying, "Dogs have eyes, therefore if you have eyes, you're a dog." .... lol
Although blackouts may be a sign of alcoholism, blackouts are more common in non-alcoholics than was ever thought.....here are a couple of sites to visit/read/learn....:
Alcohol-induced blackouts
Alcohol-induced blackouts
Alcohol-induced blackouts
NoelleR
This is a commonly held misconception.....since all previous studies and surveys regarding blackouts were done only using alcoholics it was concluded that if a person has blackouts that person is an alcoholic.....as the below links show, this is like saying, "Dogs have eyes, therefore if you have eyes, you're a dog." .... lol
Although blackouts may be a sign of alcoholism, blackouts are more common in non-alcoholics than was ever thought.....here are a couple of sites to visit/read/learn....:
Alcohol-induced blackouts
Alcohol-induced blackouts
Alcohol-induced blackouts
NoelleR
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It means so much to come home and read all your replies. Thank you so much.
I'm so glad the day is almost over.
After my post this morning, he got worse. I had to call the police. They came and had to restrain him which ended with a big laceration on his face/chin and possibly missing teeth. I don't know, I haven't seen him since they took him. He is in county mental health hospital under observation. The doctor there thinks he may have been going through withdrawals from the norco which put him in that state. But he's waiting until tomorrow and can find out more; apparently AH is still sleeping.
My mom is here helping me clean up and I need to rest. I left for most of the day-- just couldn't be here. I will spend more time really reading the replies when I am more relaxed.
I'm so glad the day is almost over.
After my post this morning, he got worse. I had to call the police. They came and had to restrain him which ended with a big laceration on his face/chin and possibly missing teeth. I don't know, I haven't seen him since they took him. He is in county mental health hospital under observation. The doctor there thinks he may have been going through withdrawals from the norco which put him in that state. But he's waiting until tomorrow and can find out more; apparently AH is still sleeping.
My mom is here helping me clean up and I need to rest. I left for most of the day-- just couldn't be here. I will spend more time really reading the replies when I am more relaxed.
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(((itisatruth))))
I'm glad you still have YOUR ears.
Now that he is out of the house, and you have time to reflect about the chaos and drama, what's going through your mind right now?
Hugs, and serenity...
and prayers for your AH too....
I'm glad you still have YOUR ears.
Now that he is out of the house, and you have time to reflect about the chaos and drama, what's going through your mind right now?
Hugs, and serenity...
and prayers for your AH too....
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