Thinking of moving my allegiance to this site.
Sylvester, Times Square
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: New York, New York
Posts: 1
Thinking of moving my allegiance to this site.
I've been in a much more active site, over 20,000 members. But it is mostly an AA hell, for me.
I'm not a 12-stepper, and practically everyone there is. I am drowning in platitudes, and slogans, and prayers.
Last night, I wrote a very sharp "Blog" that might be taken in a most offensive darkness.
I was not personal, or crude, but it occurred to me that I might standing in the way of my recovery.
I do not like someone saying, "Congratulations for xx days sober!"
So I hope to make some alliances in this spot, so that staying away from trouble becomes the new habit that sticks.
Peace to all.
Sylvester
I'm not a 12-stepper, and practically everyone there is. I am drowning in platitudes, and slogans, and prayers.
Last night, I wrote a very sharp "Blog" that might be taken in a most offensive darkness.
I was not personal, or crude, but it occurred to me that I might standing in the way of my recovery.
I do not like someone saying, "Congratulations for xx days sober!"
So I hope to make some alliances in this spot, so that staying away from trouble becomes the new habit that sticks.
Peace to all.
Sylvester
Member
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Colorado Prairie
Posts: 1,417
I don't know the other site, but it happens everywhere. Here too. I do know that part of sobriety is serenity. Not having control of what others do and say and not letting it bother you when it happens.
"Congratulations for xx days sober!"
Those XXs remind me of the Whiskey Bottles in the Tom and Jerry Cartoons.
"Congratulations for xx days sober!"
Those XXs remind me of the Whiskey Bottles in the Tom and Jerry Cartoons.
Don't get undies in a bunch
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: South Shore MA
Posts: 7,120
Welcome Sylvester
So how many days do you have? *LOL*
You will find the AAers here as well and the slogans, and the quotes from the BB, and you will even find some of us who will quote scripture from time to time.
The world is full of people with different ideas and opinions.
You can write sharp blogs all day long but you will find that doesn't change others. We need to adjust ourself so that the actions and words of others don't get to us like they did in the past.
Tolerance does not mean acceptance. You may not agree with AA but we do need be tolerant of what others believe.
Let me change my question above...
So how is your way working for you?
Share what you find works for you.
Welcome to SR
So how many days do you have? *LOL*
You will find the AAers here as well and the slogans, and the quotes from the BB, and you will even find some of us who will quote scripture from time to time.
The world is full of people with different ideas and opinions.
You can write sharp blogs all day long but you will find that doesn't change others. We need to adjust ourself so that the actions and words of others don't get to us like they did in the past.
Tolerance does not mean acceptance. You may not agree with AA but we do need be tolerant of what others believe.
Let me change my question above...
So how is your way working for you?
Share what you find works for you.
Welcome to SR
Member
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: wherever my feet take me
Posts: 1,314
Welcome to SR.
Im pretty unaccepting of AA and the steps, but Im not having much luck on my own. All I know is that we need to find what works, whatever that is and stick to it.
I hope you feel at home here. Good luck and keep posting.
Im pretty unaccepting of AA and the steps, but Im not having much luck on my own. All I know is that we need to find what works, whatever that is and stick to it.
I hope you feel at home here. Good luck and keep posting.
Member
Join Date: May 2006
Location: UK
Posts: 100
Hi, welcome to SR
I agree with change and the others re tolerance and finding a way that is right for you (we say 'it's horses for courses' here in the UK!!).
Not many days sober myself, and not my 1st attempt. I am just starting therapy which I am hopeful about.
It's really useful geting people's advice, support etc, no matter what recovery treatment they are using. Some really great folk here..
Good luck, hope you keep coming back.
I agree with change and the others re tolerance and finding a way that is right for you (we say 'it's horses for courses' here in the UK!!).
Not many days sober myself, and not my 1st attempt. I am just starting therapy which I am hopeful about.
It's really useful geting people's advice, support etc, no matter what recovery treatment they are using. Some really great folk here..
Good luck, hope you keep coming back.
8Old & Sober Member of AA
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Nursing Home in Brick, New Jersey
Posts: 5,174
You will find the AAers here as well and the slogans, and the quotes from the BB, and you will even find some of us who will quote scripture from time to time.
Strangely enough, I still remember (and repeat) phrases I learned as a child in Sunday School...they've helped me to live a "good" life, just as the repetition of AA slogans/platitudes have helped me to live a "sober" life. Guess that makes me "good and sober."
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