Hello? Calling from city jail
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Hello? Calling from city jail
Good afternoon all,
Me and Mr.Moose just arrived back from a day of, last minute shopping.
(I bought the cutest little moose pj bottoms, red...with black little moose all over them..LOL)
If I may add, my morning sure didn't get off to a good start. Here I was, in jammies, and my PINK chenille bathrobe, and slippers, with a cup of tea in my hand, just about to sit down and pick up one of my books, and low and behold the phone rings.
Not a big surprise, cause one of the sons usually gives a ring every morning. Especially oldest son. When he's sober, he calls about 3 times a day.
Here's the transcript of this a.m.'s call from oldest son:
HIM: Hi mom, I have some awful news.
ME: And that would be?
HIM: There was a raid this morning at 7 a.m. and I'm in jail.
ME: Hmmmm
HIM: There was nothing there, I don't even know why I'm here.
ME: That's odd, I didn't know they could put people in jail for nothing.
HIM: Well, they found some of BOB's paraphenalia.
ME: Hmmmmm
HIM: I have a check coming, if you could call_____, and get a bondsman,and get me out. Just go get the check... cash it...blah blah blah, won't cost you anything.
ME: Who do I call? (Mistake #1)
HIM: gives details.
ME: I'm not sure how to do that, and I will not sign your check. That's forgery.
HIM: Bring it up here, I'll sign it.
ME: Okay, got to go.
HIM: bye
So, I get dressed and go out shopping with Mr. Moose.
All the while talking some strength into myself.
Get home and there's a phone number to call. Seems the guy in his cell has a cell phone. I call. (mistake#2)
HIM: Mom, did you call _______, and get my check?
ME: NOPE
HIM: why not?
ME: Casey, to tell you the absolute truth, I don't want to have any part of any of this chaos anymore. How is BOB, and your GF, getting sprung?
HIM: BOB'S dad is going to bail him out.
ME: Well, when he gets out, you just tell him the directions you tried to give me.
Cause I'm not doing any of this anymore.
HIM: (now is a somewhat nastier tone..well, that's just great. You know they said I won't be out for 5 to 8 years this time, and both grandmas will be dead by the time, I'm out.
ME: Don't bother with trying guilt, heaven knows that won't work anymore. Hey, I have to go, your dad's calling. You take care of yourself, and give me a call when you're released.
WHoosh...almost got sucked into that one!
So...looks like I'll know where he is for a long while.
(although I sure would like to call and hear what charges they have, but I won't)
You know he was doing kind of better this time. Still refusing to listen to good advice, like OPEN a bank account, and better pay your fines...but he was working...and sober from cocaine...
addiction sucks.
Hugs and prayers to you all,
Me and Mr.Moose just arrived back from a day of, last minute shopping.
(I bought the cutest little moose pj bottoms, red...with black little moose all over them..LOL)
If I may add, my morning sure didn't get off to a good start. Here I was, in jammies, and my PINK chenille bathrobe, and slippers, with a cup of tea in my hand, just about to sit down and pick up one of my books, and low and behold the phone rings.
Not a big surprise, cause one of the sons usually gives a ring every morning. Especially oldest son. When he's sober, he calls about 3 times a day.
Here's the transcript of this a.m.'s call from oldest son:
HIM: Hi mom, I have some awful news.
ME: And that would be?
HIM: There was a raid this morning at 7 a.m. and I'm in jail.
ME: Hmmmm
HIM: There was nothing there, I don't even know why I'm here.
ME: That's odd, I didn't know they could put people in jail for nothing.
HIM: Well, they found some of BOB's paraphenalia.
ME: Hmmmmm
HIM: I have a check coming, if you could call_____, and get a bondsman,and get me out. Just go get the check... cash it...blah blah blah, won't cost you anything.
ME: Who do I call? (Mistake #1)
HIM: gives details.
ME: I'm not sure how to do that, and I will not sign your check. That's forgery.
HIM: Bring it up here, I'll sign it.
ME: Okay, got to go.
HIM: bye
So, I get dressed and go out shopping with Mr. Moose.
All the while talking some strength into myself.
Get home and there's a phone number to call. Seems the guy in his cell has a cell phone. I call. (mistake#2)
HIM: Mom, did you call _______, and get my check?
ME: NOPE
HIM: why not?
ME: Casey, to tell you the absolute truth, I don't want to have any part of any of this chaos anymore. How is BOB, and your GF, getting sprung?
HIM: BOB'S dad is going to bail him out.
ME: Well, when he gets out, you just tell him the directions you tried to give me.
Cause I'm not doing any of this anymore.
HIM: (now is a somewhat nastier tone..well, that's just great. You know they said I won't be out for 5 to 8 years this time, and both grandmas will be dead by the time, I'm out.
ME: Don't bother with trying guilt, heaven knows that won't work anymore. Hey, I have to go, your dad's calling. You take care of yourself, and give me a call when you're released.
WHoosh...almost got sucked into that one!
So...looks like I'll know where he is for a long while.
(although I sure would like to call and hear what charges they have, but I won't)
You know he was doing kind of better this time. Still refusing to listen to good advice, like OPEN a bank account, and better pay your fines...but he was working...and sober from cocaine...
addiction sucks.
Hugs and prayers to you all,
StrivingToThrive
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(((((Sigh)))))
you did good.
It is okay to change your mind. Of course he's going to get nasty and cause you pain because he's hurting and thats what they do. If only they would work on the right way to avoid all this pain.
(((HUGS)))
Cathy
you did good.
It is okay to change your mind. Of course he's going to get nasty and cause you pain because he's hurting and thats what they do. If only they would work on the right way to avoid all this pain.
(((HUGS)))
Cathy
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(((Moose)))
I think you did great! Yeah, addiction sucks, but you don't have to get sucked into it any more.
And besides, if he's going to get 5-8 years ANYWAY (awful lot of time for innocence, don't ya think)...he might as well get comfy now.
I know if I screw up I'm looking at prison time.....that's why I don't go to places that have a likelihood of getting raided
Hopefully, he'll learn.
Glad you didn't get sucked into his drama. I hate it for him, but some of us A's only learn things the hard way!
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
I think you did great! Yeah, addiction sucks, but you don't have to get sucked into it any more.
And besides, if he's going to get 5-8 years ANYWAY (awful lot of time for innocence, don't ya think)...he might as well get comfy now.
I know if I screw up I'm looking at prison time.....that's why I don't go to places that have a likelihood of getting raided
Hopefully, he'll learn.Glad you didn't get sucked into his drama. I hate it for him, but some of us A's only learn things the hard way!
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
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Proud of you too, Moose. I'm glad you're done being jerked around.
Hey, not that it matters but.....if BOB's parents are bailing him out, and if it was BOB's paraphernalia that got Casey arrested, how 'bout if BOB's parents bail out your son too?
Nawww, that'd be silly, wouldn't it?
Hey, not that it matters but.....if BOB's parents are bailing him out, and if it was BOB's paraphernalia that got Casey arrested, how 'bout if BOB's parents bail out your son too?
Nawww, that'd be silly, wouldn't it?
Jujubee Queen
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I'm thinking he's right where his H.P. wants him.
He called back, talked to his dad. (I was taking a shower donchaknow)
Says the police found nothing,
so now they are trying to interregate the GF to get her to "spill" ?
I'd say, if there's no charges, he'll be free right?
But, then again, not my problem.
Here's a lightbulb moment:
Addicts are known to deceive...or hedge the truth a bit.
He called back, talked to his dad. (I was taking a shower donchaknow)
Says the police found nothing,
so now they are trying to interregate the GF to get her to "spill" ?
I'd say, if there's no charges, he'll be free right?
But, then again, not my problem.
Here's a lightbulb moment:
Addicts are known to deceive...or hedge the truth a bit.
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Nice job...well done. I know there's not one of us here who would even think of bailing out our favorite addict (yeah right). I haven't had the thrill of that phone call yet, and hopefully never will. But if it happens hoe I handle it as well as you did.
Prayers...
Prayers...
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Addictions does such Moose.
I'm sorry your son continues to put you, your husband and himself through this.
It's still heartbreaking no matter how long you've been dealing with it.
But your boundaries and recovery have nearly blinded me for they shine so brightly.
You did the right thing for you and for him. Your serenity and his consequences.
I'm sorry your son continues to put you, your husband and himself through this.
It's still heartbreaking no matter how long you've been dealing with it.
But your boundaries and recovery have nearly blinded me for they shine so brightly.
You did the right thing for you and for him. Your serenity and his consequences.
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My hat goes off to you again! I plan on using some of your words when my "kasey" calls! ME: That's odd, I didn't know they could put people in jail for nothing.
loved it!
susan
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(((((((((Moose)))))))))
Damm*t! Why do they always feel the need to suck us in?
I don't friggin' get it. I really don't.
My sister and her grandson came to visit today. I wanted her
to see a specific episode of Intervention. The one about the
pastor's son and daughter. It breaks my heart to see it.
Anyway, while her gs was watching spongebob on my 'puter,
as shows up with the egf. He hands me a scarf the size of a 3 yo's
neck and says that egf crocheted it for me and I owe her $30.00
Said with a laugh, dontchaknow?
What am I suppose to do with this? Wrap my feet in it?
Well, how about I clean your place for $20?
Why are you here, Jason?
I am not giving you any money.
Well, right in front of my sister and his egf, (elderly, btw)
he starts spewing about how I was never there for him growing up.
That my husband and I can have a big screen tv while he and egf
doesn't even have money for groceries, gas, ect.
I said, "stop! You can leave right now."
Said not to text me anymore with his ignorance. I'm done with it.
They left and soon after sister and gs left. But not before he texed me with.
"Thanks for nothing. Your not my mother. Your a stuck up bitch."
He sent the same message about 5 times.
My sister couldn't believe the way he turned on me.
She asked if I was alright? Well, yeah.
I've been receiving this kind of treatment for a couple of weeks now.
I think he's about ready to find work.
I really am fine. I just don't/can't talk to him for a while.
Maybe a long while.
Oh, he also pointed out that once he is on his feet I will feel bad never
helping him. HA!
I quietly said, "no. I'll be very proud when that moment arrives".
Your doing swell, Moose. Kudos.
Me, on the other hand, should have never opened my door.
Hugs,
Linda
Damm*t! Why do they always feel the need to suck us in?
I don't friggin' get it. I really don't.
My sister and her grandson came to visit today. I wanted her
to see a specific episode of Intervention. The one about the
pastor's son and daughter. It breaks my heart to see it.
Anyway, while her gs was watching spongebob on my 'puter,
as shows up with the egf. He hands me a scarf the size of a 3 yo's
neck and says that egf crocheted it for me and I owe her $30.00
Said with a laugh, dontchaknow?
What am I suppose to do with this? Wrap my feet in it?
Well, how about I clean your place for $20?
Why are you here, Jason?
I am not giving you any money.
Well, right in front of my sister and his egf, (elderly, btw)
he starts spewing about how I was never there for him growing up.
That my husband and I can have a big screen tv while he and egf
doesn't even have money for groceries, gas, ect.
I said, "stop! You can leave right now."
Said not to text me anymore with his ignorance. I'm done with it.
They left and soon after sister and gs left. But not before he texed me with.
"Thanks for nothing. Your not my mother. Your a stuck up bitch."
He sent the same message about 5 times.
My sister couldn't believe the way he turned on me.
She asked if I was alright? Well, yeah.
I've been receiving this kind of treatment for a couple of weeks now.
I think he's about ready to find work.
I really am fine. I just don't/can't talk to him for a while.
Maybe a long while.
Oh, he also pointed out that once he is on his feet I will feel bad never
helping him. HA!
I quietly said, "no. I'll be very proud when that moment arrives".
Your doing swell, Moose. Kudos.
Me, on the other hand, should have never opened my door.
Hugs,
Linda
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(((Moose))) I am sorry, really I am about all this happening, but you are one awesome lady and I love how you handled it all.
It just gets old, the drama and the phone calls, and saying "no" can sure take a load off our shoulders.
Whatever his HP has in store for him, we just have to trust that it will take him to a better path one day.
You and Mr. Moose deserve this holiday, those beaches sure can be peaceful places.
Big hugs and Lotsa Love
It just gets old, the drama and the phone calls, and saying "no" can sure take a load off our shoulders.
Whatever his HP has in store for him, we just have to trust that it will take him to a better path one day.
You and Mr. Moose deserve this holiday, those beaches sure can be peaceful places.
Big hugs and Lotsa Love
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(((( moose)))) i am sorry your son has got himself in this mess again. i wish it could be all sunshine & roses for us & our addicts but that just don't seem to be. i love your attitude.keep taking care of you & don't take anymore calls. i have not taken the 1st one from my son or grandson. not dealing with it is a lot more peaceful. addiction does suck.prayers for you,mr. moose & your son.
a cell phone in jail?????
a cell phone in jail?????
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Wow Moose! So many inspirations this week, I'm soaking it in! Must have been hard, cannot imagine what this kind of thing does to a parent, but I completely and totally think you did the right thing, not that that matters much, important thing is that you feel like you did the right thing! Thanks for sharing! Take care of yourself!
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hope,
The cell phone.
Yep, when we got back from shopping, there was a message on the phone from the GF, or mother of the prisoner who is the keeper of the cell phone. She said call this #, and you can reach Casey.
Well, I didn't know what the heck she was talking about, so I called. And I'll be darn if the guy who answered didn't get Casey on the phone!
Gee, I hope he has his charger, or the calls may be going going gone...
The cell phone.
Yep, when we got back from shopping, there was a message on the phone from the GF, or mother of the prisoner who is the keeper of the cell phone. She said call this #, and you can reach Casey.
Well, I didn't know what the heck she was talking about, so I called. And I'll be darn if the guy who answered didn't get Casey on the phone!
Gee, I hope he has his charger, or the calls may be going going gone...
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(((((Moose)))))
Really sorry that the shhhhtufffff continues. Guess HP wanted to send a little message about consequences. So glad you were able to step back and not get sucked in. Shakin my head about the cell phone too...
Really sorry that the shhhhtufffff continues. Guess HP wanted to send a little message about consequences. So glad you were able to step back and not get sucked in. Shakin my head about the cell phone too...
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I am so sorry you are going through this but like others before me I am awed by your recovery...
it is so sad that we hear their words and search for the lie....
we've been lied to so often
sometimes my son tells me about an everyday occurrence and I realize that I just automaticallly assume there are missing parts to the the story or contradicting facts...EVEN when there is absolutely no need for deception...
go figure....
those pajamas sound cute!!
it is so sad that we hear their words and search for the lie....
we've been lied to so often
sometimes my son tells me about an everyday occurrence and I realize that I just automaticallly assume there are missing parts to the the story or contradicting facts...EVEN when there is absolutely no need for deception...
go figure....
those pajamas sound cute!!
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