NoDoubt

Is it OK to ask your husband (who is in recovery) to join him in an open AA meeting? Or - is he supposed to ask?

I don't want to push him. I just thougt it might be good if I go to a meeting with him. He has told me that family members occasionally go to the open meetings.

NoDoubt

Debbie

Hi Nodoubt

I think it would be okay to ask him how he would feel about it. He may not be comfortable but then again he might like the idea you want to learn a bit more. I've been to open AA meetings with my hubby and he never had a problem with it but everyone is different. I would ask but respect his decision if he would rather go alone. Just my thoughts.

Many hugs,
Debbie

Gabe

If he feels comfortable about it, go with him. If he's hesitant, then stay home. I think the offer will show him that you are trying to be there for him if he wants you to come along. I think you are wonderful for making the offer. Please pass Go, collect 200 dollars and put on your tiara.
Peace,
Gabe

Ann

I agree also that asking his feeling about it and accepting his answer would be fine.

I have gone to open NA meetings with my son, and I learned more there about addiction and recovery than in any books I ever read and it was helpful to me and supportive to him. I just kept in mind that it was HIS meeting and listened and was friendly but didn't try to participate or talk about him.

Good for you for showing interest.

NoDoubt

Thanks Debbie, Gabe and Ann-

He got home late last night (2 meetings on fridays) and left for fishing before the crack of dawn today. But, as soon as we get some time together I will ask him if he would like me to go to an open meeting with him.

Thanks again! I just wasn't sure if it was my place to ask him, but I will try.

Jeanne

myles1

That's an alright question to ask. It will help you to learn more about the disease too.

Ngaire