jehnifer

...i let him go somehwere for two hours today and he comes home and runs up to his room and then later i went and searched his closet and found hidden whiskey in a jar AND a pot pipe and a toilet paper tube stuffed with scented dryer sheets. So much for a good Chrsitmas...I feel like I have a rock in my stomach and I do not feel like ruining the rest of the evening by confronting him or even telling my husband. I will wait til tomorrow and then get him a oneway ticket back to residential. I am sooooo disappointed. Help me please. He is almost 17. Been in treatment since August. Was supposed to get done end of January. I am sooo disappointed

Taking5

What is the significance of dryer sheets? Is this something that people inhale?

Are you sure this is all new stuff? Is there a possibility it has been in the room while he has been away?

Miss Pink

its a disease. no cure. no guarantees. He is young and just in early recovery/ dont expect ANYTHING, and you wont be disappointed.

Have you started alanon or naranon yet???

caileesnana

sorry for you pain always, but especially at Christmas. Kids and addiciton is hell.
You are in my prayers,
susan

nieuanima

While attending the family week of my son's rehab facility, we were told that the road of recovery isn't a straight line, that it is expected that the addict will use, stumble, fall, and get back on track. Recovery is a process, not a place leapt to during rehab. Did you ask your son about the items you found? Or where he went for two hours? I think that, at 17, you have every right to query him, in a loving way, about those things...
Take care of yourself. Nieuanima

hope213

(((((jennifer)))) i am so sorry he did this. you do the best you can for him. i want you to know this is not your fault. you did not CAUSE it, you can not CONTROL it & you can not CURE it. he is young but he is the only one that can get himself clean.if he is not ready nothing you do will make him stop. i have my 16yr old grandson here for the holiday & i know how trying it is. i set boundries before he came & i am inforcing them. if he sneaks out the window or runs i will call the cops. he has been in a locked faculity for 8 months until 10 days ago & then he was put in a group home. my son is also an addict & i will not walk that road with my grandson as much as i love them both.i will say a prayer for your family. remember this is not your fault. let him fall & maybe he can then realize that he needs to get clean. welcome to S.R. & keep coming back.