Help!! Best buds bday this weekend!
Help!! Best buds bday this weekend!
Hi everyone,
I need some tips for this weekend! Its my best friend's birthday. They're all heavy drinkers. I have no desire to drink, but it's not Saturday yet and have no idea what my mind is going to be saying to me when mostly everyone else is. I designated myself as the DD. Everyone's going to my friends house, playing some games, and "pre-tanking". I know theres going to be at least one other person there who doesnt drink. The problem is I'm DDing to a bar. I'm scared sh******. I hate being in bars soberly, get anxious with all the people around. I've only been sober just over a month. Is this a rediculous situation to be putting myself in? Should I just abruptly cancel? I do not want to wake up Sunday morning hating myself!!! I've gone to social things at people's houses and don't have problems turning down booze (not yet anyway) but haven't been to a bar. I dont' want this to be a sitting in the barbers chair too long type of situation. Anyway, what have your experiences been with this? I'm thinking I might just "come down with a flu" but would feel guilty as I'm supposed to be driving people.
I need some tips for this weekend! Its my best friend's birthday. They're all heavy drinkers. I have no desire to drink, but it's not Saturday yet and have no idea what my mind is going to be saying to me when mostly everyone else is. I designated myself as the DD. Everyone's going to my friends house, playing some games, and "pre-tanking". I know theres going to be at least one other person there who doesnt drink. The problem is I'm DDing to a bar. I'm scared sh******. I hate being in bars soberly, get anxious with all the people around. I've only been sober just over a month. Is this a rediculous situation to be putting myself in? Should I just abruptly cancel? I do not want to wake up Sunday morning hating myself!!! I've gone to social things at people's houses and don't have problems turning down booze (not yet anyway) but haven't been to a bar. I dont' want this to be a sitting in the barbers chair too long type of situation. Anyway, what have your experiences been with this? I'm thinking I might just "come down with a flu" but would feel guilty as I'm supposed to be driving people.
believer
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Europe
Posts: 2,411
I can't tell you what to do..but i can tell you that whatever decision you make i hope it's based on your well being, for that is one of the most important things in recovery and in life....
hug, Karim
hug, Karim
Do what's best for you and your sobriety. Personally I would not go. I would not have been comfortable in the situation so early in recovery. I wish you well whatever you decide.
Hope that flu clears up quickly *hint hint*.
Hope that flu clears up quickly *hint hint*.
I wouldn't go if I were you.
I went to a friendly get-together early in my sobriety and I didn't drink that night. But, I was crazy with anxiety and the next day, I went out and bought wine. I never did that again. I couldn't be in that situation in early sobriety.
I went to a friendly get-together early in my sobriety and I didn't drink that night. But, I was crazy with anxiety and the next day, I went out and bought wine. I never did that again. I couldn't be in that situation in early sobriety.
Pull out of it m8 if you don't feel up to it - your first responsibility is to your health and if you go you might drink - I know I would be sorely tempted at a friends birthday party (oh what the hell, it's only this once, somebody's birthday, etc, etc)...
Don't go to the party!!!
Don't go to the party!!!
Thanks for the replies everyone. I believe I'm starting to feel feverish :-) I know it was a bad idea but part of me was still thinking that I should go and test out the will power, lol. But, then the other part of me is picturing waking up Sunday morning having had a blackout and wanting to end it all. So, all ur replies have shut the first voice up as you're in agreement with reason. I'll be at home soberly nursing the flu.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Out of my mind
Posts: 113
Thanks for the replies everyone. I believe I'm starting to feel feverish :-) I know it was a bad idea but part of me was still thinking that I should go and test out the will power, lol. But, then the other part of me is picturing waking up Sunday morning having had a blackout and wanting to end it all. So, all ur replies have shut the first voice up as you're in agreement with reason. I'll be at home soberly nursing the flu.
Nothing wrong with testing out sobriety Irish...but if you don't make sure you're ready ? yeah...it can be a pretty dark Sunday morning
Been there, done that. Again and Again and Again...LOL
D
Been there, done that. Again and Again and Again...LOL
D
Thanks for the replies everyone. I believe I'm starting to feel feverish :-) I know it was a bad idea but part of me was still thinking that I should go and test out the will power, lol. But, then the other part of me is picturing waking up Sunday morning having had a blackout and wanting to end it all. So, all ur replies have shut the first voice up as you're in agreement with reason. I'll be at home soberly nursing the flu.
glad your not going irish..
i was invited to my uncles 60th birthday party today (and i come from one of those huge irish families)
i politely declined, and told my aunt i was sorry, to wish him my best
but i wasnt ready
she said she was very proud of me
i was invited to my uncles 60th birthday party today (and i come from one of those huge irish families)
i politely declined, and told my aunt i was sorry, to wish him my best
but i wasnt ready
she said she was very proud of me
One thing that I recall is always "worrying" what others would think when I decide not to go.... It doesn't matter what anyone thinks. I needed to do what's best for ME first. True friends will understand, I found that only people with their own drinking problem would pressure me to go etc..
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)