Language of Letting Go - November 14
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Language of Letting Go - November 14
ou are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Letting Our Anger Out
It's okay to be angry, but it isn't healthy to be resentful. Regardless of what we learned as children, no matter what we saw role modeled, we can learn to deal with our anger in ways that are healthy for us and for those around us. We can have our angry feelings. We can connect with them, own them, and feel them, express them, release them, and be done with them.
We can learn to listen to what anger is telling us about what we want and need in order to take care of ourselves.
Sometimes we can even indulge in angry feelings that aren't justified. Feelings are just feelings; there is no morality in the feeling, only in our behavior. We can feel angry without hurting or abusing others or ourselves. We can learn to deal with anger in ways that benefit our relationships instead of ways that harm them.
If we don't feel our angry feelings today, we will need to face them tomorrow.
Today, I will let myself feel my anger. I will express my anger appropriately, without guilt. Then I will be done with it.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Letting Our Anger Out
It's okay to be angry, but it isn't healthy to be resentful. Regardless of what we learned as children, no matter what we saw role modeled, we can learn to deal with our anger in ways that are healthy for us and for those around us. We can have our angry feelings. We can connect with them, own them, and feel them, express them, release them, and be done with them.
We can learn to listen to what anger is telling us about what we want and need in order to take care of ourselves.
Sometimes we can even indulge in angry feelings that aren't justified. Feelings are just feelings; there is no morality in the feeling, only in our behavior. We can feel angry without hurting or abusing others or ourselves. We can learn to deal with anger in ways that benefit our relationships instead of ways that harm them.
If we don't feel our angry feelings today, we will need to face them tomorrow.
Today, I will let myself feel my anger. I will express my anger appropriately, without guilt. Then I will be done with it.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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If we don't feel our angry feelings today, we will need to face them tomorrow.
I had a bad dream last night, of days gone by when my son was at home and all hell was breaking lose. It was like a rerun of a bad movie and I woke up this morning very, very angry (not my style). I even PM'd a member here who has been where I am and who I consider very wise for suggestions on how to get rid of it.
When I think of why this anger is surfacing now, long after I felt I had dealt with it and at a time when I am no longer in that situation, and I think it is because I didn't deal with the anger at the time. I was so engrossed in fear and just trying to cope my way through each day, I never took the time to just be plain old angry, very angry, about so many things.
So, even after many years of recovery, even after I thought I had "taken care of business" with my emotions, I find I have work to do today to process this anger and then finally let it go. I will begin by praying about it and ask God to help me get this all out, then I will write about it putting to words all the anger that I have had stuffed way way way down inside. I will pray again and then burn my paper because for me that is a way of saying "okay, I'm done with this resentment and anger and now turn it over to the universe".
I am grateful today to have the tools of recovery to deal with this, because without them I could have spent today walking around spitting nails and missing all the beauty that is surely out there just for me to enjoy.
Just for today I will deal with my old issues that seem to have surfaced, and then I will feel the burden lifted when I finally let them go.
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