Are you serious?!
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Join Date: Apr 2018
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Are you serious?!
I知 so pissed at myself. Had a horrible weekend two weeks ago and swore no more drinking. Thought about posting right before I left. But knew what would be said. I was already getting ready to go to bed but when my friends FaceTimed me they look so happy. I told myself I値l just crack open beer and babysit it. You know the story. Why did I put myself in that position. I知 literally playing Russian roulette. I知 so tired of making these stupid choices. I knew better. I should be able to go out but I feel the only time I do well is if I stay home. Do I never come out...that is so pathetic!!!!
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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I had to stay home for a while - long enough for me know I wanted to be sober no matter what everyone else was doing...and long enough to reconnect with old friends and maybe make some new ones where the common element wasn't drinking.
It is hard - you'll have to make some tough choices and deal with some sadness and disappointment - but you're doing that now anyway when you regret drinking.
Not drinking is the only way to make real lasting change
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It is hard - you'll have to make some tough choices and deal with some sadness and disappointment - but you're doing that now anyway when you regret drinking.
Not drinking is the only way to make real lasting change
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,784
I don't go out much, and rarely drank outside my home so I don't miss it. But I had to commit to staying sober when I was home by myself, when I always did my drinking. It took some strict self discipline but I became stronger for it.
The other thing I did, and still do, to shore up my sobriety, is to practice gratitude every day. It changed my attitude and my life.
The other thing I did, and still do, to shore up my sobriety, is to practice gratitude every day.
It changed my attitude and my life. Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
If alcohol isnt in the house for me to easily reach for
it if and when the temptation come knocking on the
door, then I won't be able to reach for it or drink it.
Having alcohol around me especially in early recovery
was dangerous. Having it removed from our house
hold, getting my butt to recovery meetings, surrounding
myself with as much support as possible helped me
remain sober for a many one days sober while learning
how to build a strong solid foundation to live and enjoy
my life upon while moving forward sober.
I was and am still responsible for my own recovery life
and with yrs sobriety, i know today exactly what I need
to do when life throws me a curve ball to try and ruffle
my feather or drag me down.
I never have to go thru life alone in recovery because
I am always connected to my recovery lifelines and I
have a recovery tool box filled with important recovery
tools to use to keep my addiction tiger asleep.
To drink this many years sober later for me would mean
waking up that tiger I put to sleep 30 yrs ago. If he was
to wake up, he wont be a small baby tiger. He will be one
huge furocious monster with teeth and claws to shred
and tear up anything and anyone who stands in its way.
Not only will it destroy all in it's path but it will take me
out too.
Even tho life throws me some curve balls from time to
time, my sober life is more manageable than having a
huge, mean beast adding more drama to it.
SR support, care and understanding strong. A lifeline
that keep me connected to continuous recovery support
one day at a time.
it if and when the temptation come knocking on the
door, then I won't be able to reach for it or drink it.
Having alcohol around me especially in early recovery
was dangerous. Having it removed from our house
hold, getting my butt to recovery meetings, surrounding
myself with as much support as possible helped me
remain sober for a many one days sober while learning
how to build a strong solid foundation to live and enjoy
my life upon while moving forward sober.
I was and am still responsible for my own recovery life
and with yrs sobriety, i know today exactly what I need
to do when life throws me a curve ball to try and ruffle
my feather or drag me down.
I never have to go thru life alone in recovery because
I am always connected to my recovery lifelines and I
have a recovery tool box filled with important recovery
tools to use to keep my addiction tiger asleep.
To drink this many years sober later for me would mean
waking up that tiger I put to sleep 30 yrs ago. If he was
to wake up, he wont be a small baby tiger. He will be one
huge furocious monster with teeth and claws to shred
and tear up anything and anyone who stands in its way.
Not only will it destroy all in it's path but it will take me
out too.
Even tho life throws me some curve balls from time to
time, my sober life is more manageable than having a
huge, mean beast adding more drama to it.
SR support, care and understanding strong. A lifeline
that keep me connected to continuous recovery support
one day at a time.
sober style
Join Date: May 2016
Location: San Antonio
Posts: 2,387
People have run this term "mindful" into the ground these days with overuse. But the truth behind the simple idea of being aware of our consciousness and of paying close attention to what we're doing, this will always be invaluable.
We don't get to put things on cruise control anymore, with the beer babysitting. There really aren't any timeouts from sobriety, just like life itself, but that doesn't have to be viewed as a curse or a burden we bear. We can recognize it as a blessing, this spark we've been given and need to respect and protect.
We don't get to put things on cruise control anymore, with the beer babysitting. There really aren't any timeouts from sobriety, just like life itself, but that doesn't have to be viewed as a curse or a burden we bear. We can recognize it as a blessing, this spark we've been given and need to respect and protect.
Respect and Protect
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Norfolk, VA
Posts: 10,962
Are you serious?!
Good question. Are you serious about getting sober? And staying sober? Then make the changes you need to make to get there. The shame and regret you have after you drink, and the promises you make to stop drinking, are an ineffective recovery plan.
Good question. Are you serious about getting sober? And staying sober? Then make the changes you need to make to get there. The shame and regret you have after you drink, and the promises you make to stop drinking, are an ineffective recovery plan.
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Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 61,512
I wasn't comfortable being around alcohol for about nine or ten months. That's a long time, but it gave me a chance to make lifestyle changes which helped me stay strong in my recovery. Try to be patient and, yes, this will get easier, but it will take some time.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
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Justme - I agree that it takes time to be comfortable going out & being around "it". I went out prematurely & wasn't ready to deal with the fomo. I didn't cave, but I was miserable & sorry for myself. A few months later I felt entirely different - I was strong & committed - and had no desire to go back to my old life. You can get there. Glad you posted about what's going on.
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