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Old 03-06-2018, 07:38 AM
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Today is the day!

First one on one counselling appointment.
I have no idea what to expect, and I am super nervous!
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Old 03-06-2018, 07:41 AM
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good on ya!! prolly wise to expect nothing more than help maybe?
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Old 03-06-2018, 08:34 AM
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Awesome! ‘Action’ is the magic word, you are doing great!
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Old 03-06-2018, 09:04 AM
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I am really happy for you Anarock. Take deep breathes and realize that you are truly taking some positive steps in the right direction right now.
Things might get tougher before they get easier but in a few months and years, you will be very glad that you chose to address your issues.

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Old 03-06-2018, 11:15 AM
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Glad to hear it anarock. All you need to expect is that your counselor is there to help you, nothing more or less. Just keep an open mind - the initial appointment is really just for them to get to know you and what you might need help with.
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Old 03-06-2018, 12:04 PM
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Sounds good. Thanks everyone. I just honestly don't know why I'm so nervous. I'm also really excited.
It's just hard to know what it is going to happen during the meeting I guess....I'm anxious about being really awkward because I get soooo anxious myself.
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Old 03-06-2018, 04:18 PM
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Hope all goes well Anarock

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Old 03-06-2018, 07:05 PM
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It was great. Got to know my counsellor a bit and talked and did all the paperwork. Also made 2 more appointments!
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Old 03-06-2018, 10:32 PM
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It was great. Got to know my counsellor a bit and talked and did all the paperwork. Also made 2 more appointments!
One of the most beneficial things i ever did in recovery was get into one on one counseling. good for you!!!!!!
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Old 03-07-2018, 12:32 AM
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One of the most beneficial things i ever did in recovery was get into one on one counseling. good for you!!!!!!
Awesome!! Thatís good to hear. I think it will help to have someone one on one to talk to. At AA and groups I have a hard time sharing if thereís a lot of people there. Which there always is.
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Old 03-07-2018, 04:13 AM
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Awesome!! Thatís good to hear. I think it will help to have someone one on one to talk to. At AA and groups I have a hard time sharing if thereís a lot of people there. Which there always is.
In the early days I didn't speak at meetings, and I never shared personal recovery issues. All my recovery (step) work was done one on one with my sponsor, away from the meetings. Today I share encouragement and experience with the program, and I still do my step work away from the meetings.

Just that if you find yourself at a ameeting that wants you to share anything other than general experience, I would be looking for another group.
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Old 03-07-2018, 11:36 AM
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So good for you, Anarock. An insanely helpful step. Way to take this thing into overdrive!
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Old 03-07-2018, 11:56 AM
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Just remember that unless your counselor just graduated last year, you will not be the first person to reveal your issues. Experienced counselors have heard it before, so just be honest and transparent.
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Old 03-07-2018, 11:58 AM
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It's going to be helpful no doubt. She's already given me reading to do.
Unfortunately she sees to think this may be depression.
Had no idea of that, but she's the expert.

The only this I thought was weird...she didn't seem it mandatory to quit drinking. Just to cut down.
I mentioned my wedding and she seemed to think champagne was okay.
Or on holidays. Just no drinking sadly by myself at home to terrible excess.
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Old 03-07-2018, 11:59 AM
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Just remember that unless your counselor just graduated last year, you will not be the first person to reveal your issues. Experienced counselors have heard it before, so just be honest and transparent.
She is very experienced with this type of thing...she mentioned lots of clients that had "done this" or "done that"...anonymously of course.
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So good for you, Anarock. An insanely helpful step. Way to take this thing into overdrive!
Yep! Now I have AA, counselling, and actually another possible assessment with a free program here. I need to see which works best for me.
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Old 03-07-2018, 12:01 PM
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In the early days I didn't speak at meetings, and I never shared personal recovery issues. All my recovery (step) work was done one on one with my sponsor, away from the meetings. Today I share encouragement and experience with the program, and I still do my step work away from the meetings.

Just that if you find yourself at a ameeting that wants you to share anything other than general experience, I would be looking for another group.
I always wondered about that. Many people speak for 10 minutes +, but IF I speak, it's like a minute.
I don't have a sponsor, and I have no idea how to find one. So basically I'm just going to the meetings and learn from others.
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Yep! Now I have AA, counselling, and actually another possible assessment with a free program here. I need to see which works best for me.
It's possible that ALL of them will work best too ;-)
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Great job getting the appointment, and I very happy it went well A
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Old 03-08-2018, 07:01 PM
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Great job getting the appointment, and I very happy it went well A
Thanks! It honestly feels like a weight was lifted.
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