Just back from my work Christmas party - this what worked for me
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Just back from my work Christmas party - this what worked for me
Unlike last year where there was wine pouring from every direction and the only alternative was water, this year they had many alternatives.
A beautiful hot cocoa bar with a lovely assortment of accouterments.
Was overwhelming being among noisy crowds and oddly, the temptation to drink was not very powerful. Lasted a moment or two but surprisingly, not terribly potent.
I think what helped me in this scenario, was first of all knowing that no matter how uncomfortable it was, I was going to stay "dry" played the scenario in my head were I to drink. In other words, disaster in one form or another.
And then taking a moment to observe the many other people drinking cocoa and without a vert in hand. Staying engaged in conversation and remembering that at any time, I could leave.
I was happy to have made an appearance and rub elbows with my superiors. What;s more, it was an opportunity to walk through that particular "fire" and prove that I could once again be in boisterous social settings and participate without drinking.
So thankful to be back to my sober and true self.
A beautiful hot cocoa bar with a lovely assortment of accouterments.
Was overwhelming being among noisy crowds and oddly, the temptation to drink was not very powerful. Lasted a moment or two but surprisingly, not terribly potent.
I think what helped me in this scenario, was first of all knowing that no matter how uncomfortable it was, I was going to stay "dry" played the scenario in my head were I to drink. In other words, disaster in one form or another.
And then taking a moment to observe the many other people drinking cocoa and without a vert in hand. Staying engaged in conversation and remembering that at any time, I could leave.
I was happy to have made an appearance and rub elbows with my superiors. What;s more, it was an opportunity to walk through that particular "fire" and prove that I could once again be in boisterous social settings and participate without drinking.
So thankful to be back to my sober and true self.
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Glad you went to your party and had a good time! So many holiday party reports around here. Wow I love the idea of a hot cocoa bar, whoever came up with that was a genius.
It does feel good to engage with people normally as a non drinker. Yes, it’s a bit awkward at times, but awkward isn’t the end of the world.
It’s nice to go out, isn’t it...I’m so incredibly self conscious as a sober person (alcohol was a major social lubricant) and it’s not easy, but I see it as another challenge in my life.
It does feel good to engage with people normally as a non drinker. Yes, it’s a bit awkward at times, but awkward isn’t the end of the world.
It’s nice to go out, isn’t it...I’m so incredibly self conscious as a sober person (alcohol was a major social lubricant) and it’s not easy, but I see it as another challenge in my life.
I am not these thoughts - I am the Master of these thoughts.
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Thank you guys for reading and I am so happy it's proving helpful for others, too.
I like what you say, Sassy: so I feel awkward - so what? It's not the end of the world, and I can often go off the deep end and make mountains out of mole hills. Better to feel awkward and accept the challenge, then give up the challenge and drink.
Absolutely Dropsie - Thanksgiving was rough for me. I never would have thought that in only a short matter of time, I'd be at a Christmas party with wine a plenty and be able to enjoy myself with cocoa in hand.
Thank you for reading and caring
I like what you say, Sassy: so I feel awkward - so what? It's not the end of the world, and I can often go off the deep end and make mountains out of mole hills. Better to feel awkward and accept the challenge, then give up the challenge and drink.
Absolutely Dropsie - Thanksgiving was rough for me. I never would have thought that in only a short matter of time, I'd be at a Christmas party with wine a plenty and be able to enjoy myself with cocoa in hand.
Thank you for reading and caring
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