cousins wedding
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cousins wedding
Received an invitation to my cousins wedding in June. The party is on the 9th, wedding day 10th.
I know they'll all be drinking and I was thinking about not going but it doesn't mean I have to drink if I do attend and no one can push me right?
I know they'll all be drinking and I was thinking about not going but it doesn't mean I have to drink if I do attend and no one can push me right?
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Right.
I think the key is to always have a plan for these things. Such as, drive yourself there, be prepared to leave after a short time at the party/reception if you are uncomfortable, and have a declarative sentence prepared. "I have to go, thanks, see you later."
No means no. I don't give reasons why I'm not having a drink, I just say, "No, thanks. I'll have a ginger ale, please." If anyone asks why, there are many truthful reasons that don't invite conversation.
"I don't feel like it."
"I am driving."
"I don't like how it makes me feel."
"I'm not drinking today."
No one gets to tell me what to eat or drink. That is a sacred choice I make for my body. If I am confident in my decision, no one can throw me off.
I think the key is to always have a plan for these things. Such as, drive yourself there, be prepared to leave after a short time at the party/reception if you are uncomfortable, and have a declarative sentence prepared. "I have to go, thanks, see you later."
No means no. I don't give reasons why I'm not having a drink, I just say, "No, thanks. I'll have a ginger ale, please." If anyone asks why, there are many truthful reasons that don't invite conversation.
"I don't feel like it."
"I am driving."
"I don't like how it makes me feel."
"I'm not drinking today."
No one gets to tell me what to eat or drink. That is a sacred choice I make for my body. If I am confident in my decision, no one can throw me off.
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You are the only one that can physically make the decision to drink alcohol Doubter. Certainly there are situations where people will "push" you to drink, but at the end of the day it's your choice as to whether you do it or not. I personally avoided those kinds of situations for quite some time when I initially got sober, but I do attend weddings, graduation parties, etc now. What you will notice eventually is that there are plenty of people who aren't drinking at these events too - and not because they are alcoholics, but because they just don't drink.
If you feel you won't be able to handle it I'd suggest staying away from the party at this time. You can attend the wedding ceremony itself without the party and pay your respects/congratulate the couple there. The ceremony is really the most important part anyway, right?
If you feel you won't be able to handle it I'd suggest staying away from the party at this time. You can attend the wedding ceremony itself without the party and pay your respects/congratulate the couple there. The ceremony is really the most important part anyway, right?
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