Mother's day wish
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Mother's day wish
Hello SR friends,
I had a moving experience this weekend on Mothering Sunday. Over lunch after the rest of the family had left us alone, my Mum admitted to me that her greatest wish in life was to see me stop drinking.
My Mum told me that she had spent time during the week looking after my little sister's boyfriend who had been hospitalised in agony with alcohol induced pancreatitis. He's clearly on the same path that I am.
I have caused absolute chaos with my alcoholism over the last 20 years, crashed cars, crashed businesses, lost jobs, estranged family members, come near bankruptcy, lost friends, had serious mental health issues, experienced institutional incarceration, gone missing for months etc. all of this causing my family hell.
The reason for this post is that I it is now time to take responsibility for my life. I know how SR works, I know how AA works, I know how SMART and CBT work. In other words, I know perfectly well what I can do to sort myself out if I really want to.
It's not going to be fun or easy but I have to do it somehow. I owe it to my Mum and my sister. This post is a marker in the sand... it's time for change.
Thank you for your support, Forwards.
I had a moving experience this weekend on Mothering Sunday. Over lunch after the rest of the family had left us alone, my Mum admitted to me that her greatest wish in life was to see me stop drinking.
My Mum told me that she had spent time during the week looking after my little sister's boyfriend who had been hospitalised in agony with alcohol induced pancreatitis. He's clearly on the same path that I am.
I have caused absolute chaos with my alcoholism over the last 20 years, crashed cars, crashed businesses, lost jobs, estranged family members, come near bankruptcy, lost friends, had serious mental health issues, experienced institutional incarceration, gone missing for months etc. all of this causing my family hell.
The reason for this post is that I it is now time to take responsibility for my life. I know how SR works, I know how AA works, I know how SMART and CBT work. In other words, I know perfectly well what I can do to sort myself out if I really want to.
It's not going to be fun or easy but I have to do it somehow. I owe it to my Mum and my sister. This post is a marker in the sand... it's time for change.
Thank you for your support, Forwards.
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Excellent decision--now you gotta DO it.
There is some fun in sobriety, but it requires that you allow yourself to be teachable and you take each day as an opportunity to live a different life. There's a sense of wonderment and discovery that comes with getting sober if you're willing to do the work. Watching the new person emerge is messy, but it's amazing in the completeness of its transformation. You get to BE that for those around you and to SEE that when your eyes are finally opened.
Meanwhile, consider this a new life, and live it like you've been granted a gift--a gift of Grace....
There is some fun in sobriety, but it requires that you allow yourself to be teachable and you take each day as an opportunity to live a different life. There's a sense of wonderment and discovery that comes with getting sober if you're willing to do the work. Watching the new person emerge is messy, but it's amazing in the completeness of its transformation. You get to BE that for those around you and to SEE that when your eyes are finally opened.
Meanwhile, consider this a new life, and live it like you've been granted a gift--a gift of Grace....
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Originally Posted by BernieE 
Time to put all your knowledge into action. What will you do today to stay sober?
To stay sober for tomorrow:
- Wake early, drink plenty of water, shower
- Log on to SR
- Eat breakfast - toast and jam
- Text a contact from AA for support
- Head for work where there is plenty of tea and coffee, check SR
- Make overdue calls re my bank debt
- Have lunch with my Dad
- Try to sign off some work so I can get paid for the week and buy food
- Home, check SR, cook fish and chips
- Attend local AA meeting
- Home to bed, check SR
Risks identified:
- I will undoubtedly be craving alcohol all day and going into early withdrawals
- If I get paid I might go to the pub
- I might pick up wine on the way home
- If I drink I will not feel like going to AA
So, here's hoping for a successful Day 1. Surely I can do this. Thanks again guys.
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