trouble on the home front
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Join Date: Mar 2013
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trouble on the home front
i
have been quiet for the past few weeks...am not sure what to do...i am
in a relationship with a partner who is sometimes controlling and
demanding and a stepdaughter who gets away with murder..they drive me
insane lately
have been quiet for the past few weeks...am not sure what to do...i am
in a relationship with a partner who is sometimes controlling and
demanding and a stepdaughter who gets away with murder..they drive me
insane lately
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Are you in active sobriety? For me, family problems are about the worst. For me, resentments toward my spouse and kids were a huge deal for me. As part of my sobriety, I need to make a conscious effort to accept certain things about my family, understanding that I can only change things by example, because they don't listen when I preach! For example, my spouse is very clutter tolerant, while I like things picked up. I need to remember that I didn't marry her for her housekeeping, and its up to me to figure out what is really important, and what is worth just letting go. Also, when there are things that really need fixing, I am in a better place to deal with it when I'm sober and not resentful.
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Things are starting to fall apart for me too. My wife is really annoyed with me going to meetings, being sober etc etc. constant money problems, kids, both working way too hard.
We need something to change soon or the marriage will be gone. It's like a slow motion train wreck. Every week I'm sober she gets more unhappy.
We need something to change soon or the marriage will be gone. It's like a slow motion train wreck. Every week I'm sober she gets more unhappy.
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Originally Posted by MnEman 
Are you in active sobriety?
For me, family problems are about the worst. For me, resentments toward
my spouse and kids were a huge deal for me. As part of my sobriety, I
need to make a conscious effort to accept certain things about my
family, understanding that I can only change things by example, because
they don't listen when I preach! For example, my spouse is very clutter
tolerant, while I like things picked up. I need to remember that I
didn't marry her for her housekeeping, and its up to me to figure out
what is really important, and what is worth just letting go. Also, when
there are things that really need fixing, I am in a better place to deal
with it when I'm sober and not resentful.
For me, family problems are about the worst. For me, resentments toward
my spouse and kids were a huge deal for me. As part of my sobriety, I
need to make a conscious effort to accept certain things about my
family, understanding that I can only change things by example, because
they don't listen when I preach! For example, my spouse is very clutter
tolerant, while I like things picked up. I need to remember that I
didn't marry her for her housekeeping, and its up to me to figure out
what is really important, and what is worth just letting go. Also, when
there are things that really need fixing, I am in a better place to deal
with it when I'm sober and not resentful.
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Originally Posted by Vandermast
i
have been quiet for the past few weeks...am not sure what to do...i am
in a relationship with a partner who is sometimes controlling and
demanding and a stepdaughter who gets away with murder..they drive me
insane lately
have been quiet for the past few weeks...am not sure what to do...i am
in a relationship with a partner who is sometimes controlling and
demanding and a stepdaughter who gets away with murder..they drive me
insane lately
In what kinds of ways is your partner controlling?
Sorry you are having a rough time.
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