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So after 2 months of being proud and sober I relapsed, and have been doing so for the last month. I feel horrible, and just want to stay sober. This time is the first time I have ever had the shakes (not bad), so that scares me. I cant go to my spouse because they have been doing so well I am scared it will be a reason for them to relapse. Just needing to vent
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Originally Posted by outcast 
I will Leigh, I have actually been on SR for a while, just had to reset my name and profile. SR has been a lot of help, but when I stayed away for a while, I fell.
Glad you are back, outcast.
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Originally Posted by outcast
I will Leigh, I have actually been on SR for a while, just had to reset my name and profile. SR has been a lot of help, but when I stayed away for a while, I fell.
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thank you Huntington, I have gone to the Tues and Fri meetings and love them, I have listened but never shared, when I had my other profile people I knew and drank with in the past knew my old profile, so I started over so I can be more open my wife read my posts and was not trying to pry (she was trying to help) but I need to be able to get advice from those who don't personally know me. And you have given me great advice in the past, I am ready to start over and tell my self "I will NEVER relapse again" and I think I should start going to AA meetings, unfortunately the closest one is about 15 miles from me, but I need it.
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Outcast, we all have reasons to quit drinking, it makes us depressed and anxious and angry, it messes up the memory and judgement, makes us guilty and ashamed and all that stuff. These are the negative aspects of drinking, but they aren't really enough to make a lot of people quit.
Instead, what about the reasons to be sober? Sobriety gives us freedom, and motivation, and self respect and the respect of others again, more cash in your pocket and what that can give you, and joy and even a little happiness. You can drink, or you can have a good life, but you cannot do both. Make your own list of reasons why you need to be sober. It will help you look at things positively.
Instead, what about the reasons to be sober? Sobriety gives us freedom, and motivation, and self respect and the respect of others again, more cash in your pocket and what that can give you, and joy and even a little happiness. You can drink, or you can have a good life, but you cannot do both. Make your own list of reasons why you need to be sober. It will help you look at things positively.
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Outcast, I'm only a few months sober this time around but what has been helping me this time is reminding myself multiple times a day of big life decisions that I don't have to beat myself up over or second guess because I was sober when I made those decisions. To me, even knowing what to say to a friend or when to keep my mouth shut can be a big decision. Reminding myself of the crushing guilt to follow stops me every time. I don't know if that helps you at all but I thought I'd throw that out there. And good job having a spouse where you two seem to be supportive of helping each other stay dry. 
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Hi outcast. It happened to me a couple times too. Each time I learned something and it helped strengthen my determination. Sometimes we need further convincing. You know it's not for you anymore - and you're going to do this.
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