lillyknitting

Last night, Friday night, I was expected to go round mate's house because it's her birthday. Everyone congregates around this persons house, celebrates the birthday, then hit the pub, ugh. Well they text me, cajoled me, all night long, right up until 10 pm when they go to pub. I am determined I will not be part of that scene, as I've expressed in my posts before. This morning I feel good, I'm so glad I didn't go, I don't care if they like it or not. I'm prepared to let them go, they are just boozing mates not real friends.

GracieLou

Good for you. I think when we decide to make this change in our lives we have to really take the time to do what is best for us.

That can be difficult to do. Last weekend I was supposed to go to AA woman's event with some friends. I was really feeling run down from some extra time at work and I knew I was not up for it. I was emotional all week and stressed about going. I finally just told them I was not going. While they were disappointed they understood.

I rested all weekend and felt 100% better on Sunday. It was the best thing to do for me. Even though we get sober there are still times we have to take time for ourselves even if are friends are also sober.

True friends will understand. They did not pressure me and I got no back handed comments afterward about not going. I got hugs, reassurance and love.

TopFlight

I think you made the right choice! Sometimes things don't sound so bad, but instinctively we know it's not a good decision for our sobriety.

tootsl1

Lilly, true friends will help you in your recovery, keep those people in your life. Drinkers will try to get you back in 'the club' walk away from them

Be strong and best of luck

Johnston

I had to let go of most drinking buddies when I got sober. Your true friends will not try to get you to visit the pub once they know you're not drinking.

ReadyAtLast

good for you,you did the right thing

DarkDays

Well done Lilly, keep moving forward.

FeelingGreat

It is good when you wake up the next morning isn't it? A huge contrast to how we used to feel waking up after drinking and feeling horrible and guilty.