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Alright? Been here before, well on and off for ten years really. Tried to stop drink all together but to no avail. I'm weened down to a weekend binger but ill all week then drinking again. Vicious cycle. Anyway the missus and I are looking to have a kid so finally want to knock it on the head totally and live a booze free life. Hoping this site can help me as it has in the past. Thanks for reading.
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Welcome back!
Perhaps you should go to some AA or NA meetings? Cardiff is a lovely place, and even if you don't like the meetings there it would be worth it to travel somewhere for help.
Perhaps you should go to some AA or NA meetings? Cardiff is a lovely place, and even if you don't like the meetings there it would be worth it to travel somewhere for help.
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Originally Posted by caboblanco 
you can do it if I can. Having a kid is a big motivator for many a guy. I think it really helps. so how has drinking just on the weekends effected your life in the negative? How have you been able to control it?
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Originally Posted by Coldfusion
Welcome back!
Perhaps you should go to some AA or NA meetings? Cardiff is a lovely place, and even if you don't like the meetings there it would be worth it to travel somewhere for help.
Perhaps you should go to some AA or NA meetings? Cardiff is a lovely place, and even if you don't like the meetings there it would be worth it to travel somewhere for help.
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Join Date: Jun 2013
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Originally Posted by Bluebird1927
Thank you. Meetings not really for me, I know they would be beneficial but feel that keeping in touch with like minded people on sites like this will be enough. Fingers crossed, thanks for the reply though
None of us want to suffer, no matter how important our drinking has become. For those of us who put the drink down, there comes a time when enough is enough. You might ask yourself how much more suffering you're willing to bear before the time is right for you.
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Bluebird- During a stint of sobriety a few years back I spent a couple weeks in Carmarthen(?) Drove over Black Mountain (I think it's called that). Such a beautiful part of the world. Welcome and hope you find what you are looking for.
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Originally Posted by EndGameNYC
It seems that doing things the way you've always done them hasn't worked out for you, including your seeking support from message boards. It also appears that you're not able to get where you want to be on your own. Participating in AA or committing yourself to the many "therapies" that are designed for alcohol and other addictions, such as harm reduction and CBT, is an investment in your life and everything you hold dear.
None of us want to suffer, no matter how important our drinking has become. For those of us who put the drink down, there comes a time when enough is enough. You might ask yourself how much more suffering you're willing to bear before the time is right for you.
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Originally Posted by Adillac
Bluebird- During a stint of sobriety a few years back I spent a couple weeks in Carmarthen(?) Drove over Black Mountain (I think it's called that). Such a beautiful part of the world. Welcome and hope you find what you are looking for.
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Hi Bluebird! You can definitely knock it on the head and live booze free.
I drank my whole life and SR helped me get and stay sober. In the end, it was just a bad habit that didn't make me feel good in the least. I had used it to cope with uncomfortable situations, but all it was doing was making everything more difficult. We know you can do this!
I drank my whole life and SR helped me get and stay sober. In the end, it was just a bad habit that didn't make me feel good in the least. I had used it to cope with uncomfortable situations, but all it was doing was making everything more difficult. We know you can do this!
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Welcome back BB
I'm not trying to beat you down or bear you ill will - but you've tried this before - several times.
Whats going to be the essential difference this time?
I'm not saying you need AA or SMART or LifeRing or AVRT although I do think any of those approaches would help - I am saying you need change.
If the weekends are your problem - start planning now for a sober weekend.
I had to completely change my life and my circle of friends - I was prepared to do that to get sober.
Think about what you're prepared to do, for you and your family.
D
I know they would be beneficial but feel that keeping in touch with like minded people on sites like this will be enough.
Whats going to be the essential difference this time?
I'm not saying you need AA or SMART or LifeRing or AVRT although I do think any of those approaches would help - I am saying you need change.
If the weekends are your problem - start planning now for a sober weekend.
I had to completely change my life and my circle of friends - I was prepared to do that to get sober.
Think about what you're prepared to do, for you and your family.
D
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Join Date: Jun 2013
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Originally Posted by Bluebird1927
I fully understand your point of view but I'm willing to give this one more try my way. I hope to prove you wrong in a good way
If/when you come around to accepting help for your condition, you'll be amazed at what you can accomplish.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Welcome back BB
I'm not trying to beat you down or bear you ill will - but you've tried this before - several times.
Whats going to be the essential difference this time?
I'm not saying you need AA or SMART or LifeRing or AVRT although I do think any of those approaches would help - I am saying you need change.
If the weekends are your problem - start planning now for a sober weekend.
I had to completely change my life and my circle of friends - I was prepared to do that to get sober.
Think about what you're prepared to do, for you and your family.
D
I'm not trying to beat you down or bear you ill will - but you've tried this before - several times.
Whats going to be the essential difference this time?
I'm not saying you need AA or SMART or LifeRing or AVRT although I do think any of those approaches would help - I am saying you need change.
If the weekends are your problem - start planning now for a sober weekend.
I had to completely change my life and my circle of friends - I was prepared to do that to get sober.
Think about what you're prepared to do, for you and your family.
D
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Originally Posted by stevie88
Hey buddy fancy seeing you here....You know I got ya back if you need a push bro...Hope you are well mate..
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