ElegantlyWasted

Girlfriend at Casino again drinking and gambling... Must detach and sleep. How I made it to 20 days, I have no Idea...

Dee74

I saw the earlier thread.

Sounds like this relationship is causing you major angst.

Have you two talked about this?

If you have, then either you need to work out how not to get wound up about this...or maybe you need to move on?

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ElegantlyWasted

Kind of a continuation... GF pledged a couple of days ago to dry out with me... Didn't happen. Said she was going to meet a client, stop by the grocery store and come home by 8. I get a text from her around 9 saying she decided to go to the casino. I don't mind her gambling with her money. The drinking doesn't work well, especially when I drink too. I do need some kind of exit strategy if this continues, which I have a hunch it will. Anyways, its just frustrating and felt like throwing this out there in an attempt to get a little catharsis. Thanks Dee.

DainBramaged

You and I started our sober life within 24 hours of each other..

The good.. Just within 3 weeks I've become much more patient without anything in my system.

The bad.. I've realized how I used to act when I see my significant other drink..

The ugly.. She is using the same excuses I used to use..

The fantastic.. I'm sober today. And that's what I am trying to concentrate on.. just me.. Got that advice right here..

blueplanet

You'll get way better advice than mine. I will say that if you're thinking "exit strategy", then communicating how important this is to you could be good (if you haven't already). Also, maybe an idea of setting up non-drinky type nights might be good; cooking class, walks, board games, etc. Best of luck!

soberclover

Yeah....the relationship isn't in support of your sobriety.

flutter

Oh EW... it pains me every time you post about your girlfriend.. it sure is causing some negatives in your life, the relationship sounds toxic as all get-out. As always I wish you the best.

ElegantlyWasted

Update... I feel asleep. She came home 1ish and was delivered by the Casino Courtesy car. I usually would have picked her up or driven her back to the casino to get her car, but didn't return her texts when she text me she went to the casino instead of the Grocery store and that there was food in the fridge (duh I knew that and was wondering why she wanted to go to the grocery store in the first place). She didn't even ask for a ride back to the casino this morning, got up before me, called a cab and went back to the casino by herself to get it. Usually she would hit me up for a ride home or to go get her car in the morning. Gambling truly is an addiction too.