Sober, but just cant get out of bed. Feel scared.
Sally1009
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Join Date: Aug 2010
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Sober, but just cant get out of bed. Feel scared.
Hi everyone
This has been going on for ages, and I hate it. Since my husband died I cant sit downstairs in the lounge, and look at his empty chair. But its not just that. Theres no motivation to do ANYTHING. I feel like I've been paralysed. Even showering is an ordeal, and I'm barely getting to meetings, which I know is dangerous.
Has anyone else been through this?
This has been going on for ages, and I hate it. Since my husband died I cant sit downstairs in the lounge, and look at his empty chair. But its not just that. Theres no motivation to do ANYTHING. I feel like I've been paralysed. Even showering is an ordeal, and I'm barely getting to meetings, which I know is dangerous.
Has anyone else been through this?
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When I was in the throes of a serious depression in my 14th year I was like this. A friend came over and dragged me to my shrink who got me on a regimen of anti-depressants. I became fully functional. Can you call someone to help you? Doing this saved my life!
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hi Sally! sorry to hear about the passing of your husband. I was widowed 25 years ago but still remember the pain. It's awful. Have you heard of bereavement counseling? It was very helpful to me. Grief supports are good
There's an Internet group called Compassion Friends. I think the web address is Compassionatefriends.org. Check it out.
Love from Lenina
Here's the link. It's primarily for those who've lost children but it believe they can refer you.
http://www.compassionatefriends.org/home.aspx
There's an Internet group called Compassion Friends. I think the web address is Compassionatefriends.org. Check it out.
Love from Lenina
Here's the link. It's primarily for those who've lost children but it believe they can refer you.
http://www.compassionatefriends.org/home.aspx
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Sally, you are suffering from depression, from what you describe. Can you go to a doctor or therapist to see what they might be able to do to help you? Of course it is natural to be mourning the loss of your husband, but if that mourning becomes debilitating (which it sounds like it has) it's worth discussing with your doctor.
Very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.
Very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.
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Sally I'm sorry for you loss I'm in the same boat there are a ton of days I don't even feel like moving. I lost my mom, my best friend, a day after my 25th birthday. I know I'm in depression but if I can force myself to take a shower and move around I normally feel somewhat better. I hope things get better for you
Sally1009
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Join Date: Aug 2010
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Thanks so much folks, all very kind and useful replies. I actually am on antidepressants, but havent seen a bereavement counsellor yet. I suppose I ought to, because my life is at a standstill. Although I do have my adult sons living with me, I feel worried about what my reclusive behaviour is doing to them. They've lost their lovely Dad, and now see their Mum falling apart, tho they are so happy i am not drinking anymore.
. Please get help with the grief...I am guessing your husbNd would have wanted that.
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