just wanted to tell you all this
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Reset.....
Whetever you are doing that improves your life and future is the point of quitting.....IMO
I've already shared why bars are no longer in my life...
Forward we go..side by side
Whetever you are doing that improves your life and future is the point of quitting.....IMO
I've already shared why bars are no longer in my life...
Forward we go..side by side
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Join Date: Apr 2004
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This last time getting sober, I almost drank once in a bar. It was only a few months after I'd quit drinking. I think I was on step 1 or 2 at the time. I'd gone back east on vacation. Was fortunate enough to be with an old friend who brought up a particularly embarrassing episode from my drinking past. That was enough to squelch the temptation. I'd been in a bar about a week before waiting for my car engine to cool down. No problems then, so what was the difference? None that I can think of.
I had to take action to change the way I thought/think. As long as I take this action regularly, I don't have to shield myself from temptation. I don't have to worry about what restaurant I go to, what aisle I walk down in the supermarket, or being in a bar. Of course, since I don't drink, I very seldom find myself in a bar.
I had to take action to change the way I thought/think. As long as I take this action regularly, I don't have to shield myself from temptation. I don't have to worry about what restaurant I go to, what aisle I walk down in the supermarket, or being in a bar. Of course, since I don't drink, I very seldom find myself in a bar.
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Originally Posted by AVRT 
I thought your desire had been lifted, Boleo. You've certainly posted about it before. Why the fear?
I go to parties and weddings where alcohol is served because I do not shun those who invite me. However, when the guests get rowdy, I leave before the drama starts. I don't find it amusing anymore.
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Originally Posted by Reset
What if Hannibal had a submarine fleet? It doesn't matter.
Originally Posted by Reset
I can't live in fear or loathing of alcohol. It's just something I wouldn't drink, just like I wouldn't drink Dran-O. Why let it control me on any level?
Originally Posted by Reset
Now, "contingent" is an interesting choice of words because I never really thought of being sober as contingent upon anything. Except perhaps for the contingency of my not ingesting intoxicants.
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Originally Posted by Reset
Wow, that took a different direction than I expected. But ok.
BennyHill, the longer story is that for starters, I consider my business partners my friends. They all live in different countries and were in town for a week, hence the long working days.
With one partner in particular, who also happens to be a very good friend, I used to drink a lot. We'd routinely go out and get drunk while "working," which usually consisted of talking about our company, personnel, new ideas, etc.
This particular partner is about 15 years older than I am and so far has managed to function at a high level while being an alcoholic. The guy has off-the-charts intelligence, and I'm consistently amazed at how well his mind works despite his heavy drinking.
He's one of the original founders of the company and when we're working he wants to drink beer. So we spend a lot of time working in bars and around alcohol. Since I'm the one who shouldn't/doesn't want to drink, not him or any of the other partners, I am not going to try to rearrange the way we've always worked.
So I was happy with the outcome this week. I wasn't even tempted to drink, he drank a lot, the others drank some, and we got a lot done. And I was happy about that.
BennyHill, the longer story is that for starters, I consider my business partners my friends. They all live in different countries and were in town for a week, hence the long working days.
With one partner in particular, who also happens to be a very good friend, I used to drink a lot. We'd routinely go out and get drunk while "working," which usually consisted of talking about our company, personnel, new ideas, etc.
This particular partner is about 15 years older than I am and so far has managed to function at a high level while being an alcoholic. The guy has off-the-charts intelligence, and I'm consistently amazed at how well his mind works despite his heavy drinking.
He's one of the original founders of the company and when we're working he wants to drink beer. So we spend a lot of time working in bars and around alcohol. Since I'm the one who shouldn't/doesn't want to drink, not him or any of the other partners, I am not going to try to rearrange the way we've always worked.
So I was happy with the outcome this week. I wasn't even tempted to drink, he drank a lot, the others drank some, and we got a lot done. And I was happy about that.
More importantly, keep doing whatever it is that keeps you sober, and thank you for an interesting thread!
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Whatever works for you works for you!! I personally don't go to bars, I went into one awhile ago, and couldn't stand the smell!!! one big booze barn!!! also I just felt out of place, that was the past for me, I'm sure you know what you are doing...just stay safe!! )
I personally don't go to bars, I went into one awhile ago, and couldn't stand the smell!!! one big booze barn!!! also I just felt out of place, that was the past for me, I'm sure you know what you are doing...just stay safe!! )
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