sunrise1

There has been an elephant in the room... tonight I am so proud and relieved I brought it up. My husband is a willing and able ally and I am SO ready to open the next chapter of my life.

Cheers and well wishes will be coveted :-D
Sunrise

tommyk

Keep coming back.

Dime

Great Sunrise!
The hardest part is just getting going, congrats on your decision to stop. You probably already know this but medical support during detox is highly advised, plus the doctors can help with the discomfort and anxiety. I found a recovery program to be a great benefit to my sobriety. I finally learned to accept help and it worked.
Please let us know how you are doing.

CarolD

That's really good news......

All my best to both of you

coffeenut

It is so worth it. It really is.

ClaretandBlue

Congrats, that's a huge step to take. Especially informing your husband, it adds a layer accountability that we all need at one point or another.

You might want to consider AA meetings. You can go, not say anything and just sit in the corner to check it out. For me, a very important part of my ongoing-recovery was admitting to this group of strangers that I had a problem. For the longest time I couldn't even admit it to myself. Just a thought, it's totally up to you.

Regardless, keep up the great work!

TTOSBT

Congratulations!
And welcome!
Now time to dig into recovery. You have admitted you have a problem. Now it is time to work on a plan for living sober.
Let us know if we can help. :ghug3

sfields141

Best wishes and congratulations.

Wednesday

Well done.

treefrog

it's so worth doing sunrise. Life is good on the other side. Good luck.

LilyMarie

Awesome! Sending many well wishes your way!

sunrise1

I will be going to meetings. And- when my husband's company shows up shortly I will be calling my ultimate idol in sobriety... 25 years sober and just an awesome person. Hubby and I talked more today and it feels like I lost 50 pounds, I'm that much lighter.

smacked

Proud of you, it's it exciting!

sugErspun

Sunrise,
What is different this time that gives you the confidence to say that you will NEVER drink again?

I only ask because I took a look back at your previous posts and they seemed to be saying the same thing, but...once again..a drink.


I know this is not a universal experience by any means ~ but until I realized that I would drink again even though I had the strongest desire to "not" do so..in fact, my very life may have depended on "not" drinking again...but I knew I was going to.

Weird huh?

sunrise1

It's kind of strange... although he would tell me he didn't like my drinking, or that I was drinking too much yada yada, he got really angry with me two years ago when I went to a few meetings without telling him. He said, "I never thought you were THAT bad"... and that was the last discussion we had about it that wasn't a one-sided disapproval from him.

It feels good to be playing on the same team again... he has a few demons of his own and we were able to talk about that as well. Everything just feels better today...

smacked

History is always rather interesting.

hmm.

Ready this time???

sunrise1

Yes, I DO believe I am ready.

I think part of my prior inability to stay on a program revolved a lot around the fact that my husband wasn't included. I had no one on my team. I had gone to a few meetings but had not committed to doing so...

This time? Meetings. Big Book. Sponsor. Husband as informed ally.

Previously I failed to plan. I know now that that truly is planning to fail.

Anna

Hi Sunrise,

It sounds like you have a good plan and I agree that planning is important in recovery. I had to plan to avoid being home alone in the early days, because that was such a huge trigger for me. I also hope that you are doing this for yourself. It's great to have your husband as an ally, but ultimately it is your journey.

HappyMia

YAY SUNRISE! I'm so happy to hear that your hubby is on your side. I know how much of a difference that makes. When my alcoholism got really bad is when I started having issues with my ex-fiance. It just got worse when he cast me aside because he didn't want an alcoholic as a life partner/wife. This was even tho I admitted I had a problem, was going to meetings, in outpatient rehab, etc. It just made things completely crumble.

Having the right players on your support team is key. Keep coming back and checking in. I'm so happy for you! YAY!

keithj

Sunrise,

I'm not trying to jump on you at all. I wholeheartedly support your efforts. But I will try to provide a little accountability in the hopes that it helps. You have been in this place before. Most of us have.

So, did you get to a meeting last night? Got a book? A sponsor? Have you sat down with them yet?

Plans get you a plan for getting sober. Action will get you sober. AA is neither for those that need it nor want it. AA is for those who do it.