Sober Time Question.
Sober Time Question. 
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Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Almeria,Spain
Posts: 27
A slip is a slip, no matter how wee it was!
Better to try devoting time to understand why the wee slip happened. Why didn't you make that call? Get to a meeting?
The important step is to aacknowledge the slip, then start again, one day at a time.
Good luck!
Better to try devoting time to understand why the wee slip happened. Why didn't you make that call? Get to a meeting?
The important step is to aacknowledge the slip, then start again, one day at a time.
Good luck!
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: UK
Posts: 600
I would say yes. I think you would have to ask yourself how you can have so many weeks, months, years sobriety and have a slip within it.
All that really matters anyway is today. My last drink was nearly six months ago, yet the day out of all this that matters is today.
Just my thoughts.
Paul
All that really matters anyway is today. My last drink was nearly six months ago, yet the day out of all this that matters is today.
Just my thoughts.
Paul
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Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
As I work a program with honesty ....I would be
compelled to restart my date of sobriety if I had a drink.
Yes..even a single drink.
I am responsible for my recovery and how another
chooses to count their sober time is none of my business.
I started over many many times before I finally quit
so I think the important thing is to actually stop.
Good to see you again
compelled to restart my date of sobriety if I had a drink.
Yes..even a single drink.
I am responsible for my recovery and how another
chooses to count their sober time is none of my business.
I started over many many times before I finally quit
so I think the important thing is to actually stop.
Good to see you again
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 88
Thankyou to all your answers. Yes I am too focused on time not the real issue - sobriety. I guess I was so proud of my 57 days sober, that it hurts to start at zero again!! Oh well only myself to blame. You see I am an impatient sort and I have this burning desire to get to 1 year sober (363 days away now).!!!!!!!!! I have got to slow down and do (ONE DAY AT A TIME). :praying
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Miamisburg, Ohio
Posts: 217
To Thine Own Self Be True
If I said I had 10 years sober and drank just a little, only a couple of times...would that make YOU less sober? Of course not!
I've tried to stay sober for the courts, I tried to stay sober for the wife, I tried to stay sober for friends in the program, I've tried to stay sober for many different things and it never worked.
Eventually my reason to stay sober wouldn't be around, the courts would release me from obligation, the wife would be out of town, that AA friend would quit going to meetings and my reason to be sober would be gone.
When I became my reason for being sober it got alot less confusing. My reason for being sober was always with me.
Keep moving forward and never give up Julesy, sobriety is worth it...
God's Peace
If I said I had 10 years sober and drank just a little, only a couple of times...would that make YOU less sober? Of course not!
I've tried to stay sober for the courts, I tried to stay sober for the wife, I tried to stay sober for friends in the program, I've tried to stay sober for many different things and it never worked.
Eventually my reason to stay sober wouldn't be around, the courts would release me from obligation, the wife would be out of town, that AA friend would quit going to meetings and my reason to be sober would be gone.
When I became my reason for being sober it got alot less confusing. My reason for being sober was always with me.
Keep moving forward and never give up Julesy, sobriety is worth it...
God's Peace
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Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Highlands, TX
Posts: 1,192
Julesy I think most of us are impatient. We want what we want and we want it right now! People with 10 months want ten years but there is a saying "time takes time". God but I used to hate hearing that (cause I wanted to be so much further along than where I was and that is how my sponsor would draw me up short). But it is true.
I would like to caution you on the thought that you are somehow "cured" just because you didn't drink for a year. That is your disease trying to feed you a line of BS. See we have the only disease that tells us we don't have a disease, that we are really fine.
Alcohol is truly cunning, baffling and powerful. And add in patient. Speaking for myself that first year or so I was sober my disease was hard at work trying to convince me that I really wasn't an alcoholic. My disease picked out milestones such as 3 mos, 6 mos,9 mos, 1 year and 18 mos and told me "see you have got _____ months sober so maybe you aren't really an alcoholic. It can be different this time. I would not so nicely tell my disease to "F" off. It was, and is, a battle for my life so if you feel the same way please don't be lulled into thinking that after 1 year (or 10yrs for that matter) you are cured. This disease is progressive and it sits back doing push ups and I've heard people share in the rooms that were sobere for years and went back out that very quickly they were back to their lowest point before and then even lower.
Anyway, hope this helps and all the best to you as you start back on track.
Take care,
Kellye
I would like to caution you on the thought that you are somehow "cured" just because you didn't drink for a year. That is your disease trying to feed you a line of BS. See we have the only disease that tells us we don't have a disease, that we are really fine.
Alcohol is truly cunning, baffling and powerful. And add in patient. Speaking for myself that first year or so I was sober my disease was hard at work trying to convince me that I really wasn't an alcoholic. My disease picked out milestones such as 3 mos, 6 mos,9 mos, 1 year and 18 mos and told me "see you have got _____ months sober so maybe you aren't really an alcoholic. It can be different this time. I would not so nicely tell my disease to "F" off. It was, and is, a battle for my life so if you feel the same way please don't be lulled into thinking that after 1 year (or 10yrs for that matter) you are cured. This disease is progressive and it sits back doing push ups and I've heard people share in the rooms that were sobere for years and went back out that very quickly they were back to their lowest point before and then even lower.
Anyway, hope this helps and all the best to you as you start back on track.
Take care,
Kellye
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