Seriously, wake up
No more merlot, more mamma
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Hills, Ct
Posts: 2,139
Seriously, wake up
I'm not really posting this for me, but to share with those who are struggling. I found out today that my mother's sister, my aunt, died. She had been dead for 3 to 4 days, in her apartment, and someone called the super to inform them the lights had been on the whole time and the mail not picked up. She was 70.
The coroner has to do a toxicology test. You can imagine that her apartment was starting to smell. My aunt was an alcoholic. Just like my mother, who died 11 years ago from cirrhosis , and me. She had been in and out of rehabs for the last 8 years.
So, I know that 70 is not a young age. However, her life was a living hell for a very very long time. This is what strikes me:
She was dead for 3 to 4 days before anybody noticed.
This is the isolation of the alcoholic. 3 to 4 days. I'm sure she never planned on dying that way.
If you or somebody that you love is still just not getting "it"..well this is what not getting "it" looks like at the end.
Life is a precious gift. I am so very grateful today that I have been given this gift of sobriety. I will continue to do my best not to end up like my mother, my aunt, my grandfather, my grandmother...
Please, reach out and take the first step if you are struggling today.
The coroner has to do a toxicology test. You can imagine that her apartment was starting to smell. My aunt was an alcoholic. Just like my mother, who died 11 years ago from cirrhosis , and me. She had been in and out of rehabs for the last 8 years.
So, I know that 70 is not a young age. However, her life was a living hell for a very very long time. This is what strikes me:
She was dead for 3 to 4 days before anybody noticed.
This is the isolation of the alcoholic. 3 to 4 days. I'm sure she never planned on dying that way.
If you or somebody that you love is still just not getting "it"..well this is what not getting "it" looks like at the end.
Life is a precious gift. I am so very grateful today that I have been given this gift of sobriety. I will continue to do my best not to end up like my mother, my aunt, my grandfather, my grandmother...
Please, reach out and take the first step if you are struggling today.
Another Day in Paradise
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Upland, CA
Posts: 900
By posting your thoughts you have extended the hand, which if taken, can insure that another suffering alcoholic will NOT have to live and pass alone. You have defined in a wonderful way the word FELLOWSHIP.
Thank you,
Jon
Thank you,
Jon
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Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Glasgow, Scotland
Posts: 168
You've really shown that this is a family illness and that it is progressive. You're a wonderful example for this fellowship that you are using your experience to try and help the alcoholic who still suffers.
I'm so sorry for your loss but thankyou for helping to keep me sober for today
I'm so sorry for your loss but thankyou for helping to keep me sober for today
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Fredericksburg, Va.
Posts: 9,730
Karen my deepest condolances on your aunts passing.
Your sharing her passing will result in her death not being in vain, it has helped me once again to realize that alcoholism kills!!!!! I am sure that you sharing this has helped many others here either stay sober or to recommit to becoming sober.
I hear it in the rooms often that some of us die so that other might live.
I was blessed to visit a 93 year old "Old Timer" in the hospital the day before he passed, he was not alone, he was sober and was surrounded by his family who he had driven away while he was drinking who had come to love him once again when he got sober, he was also surrounded by his AA family, he was at peace before he passed.
Your sharing her passing will result in her death not being in vain, it has helped me once again to realize that alcoholism kills!!!!! I am sure that you sharing this has helped many others here either stay sober or to recommit to becoming sober.
I hear it in the rooms often that some of us die so that other might live.
I was blessed to visit a 93 year old "Old Timer" in the hospital the day before he passed, he was not alone, he was sober and was surrounded by his family who he had driven away while he was drinking who had come to love him once again when he got sober, he was also surrounded by his AA family, he was at peace before he passed.
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