Getting a new sponsor
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Michigan
Posts: 111
Getting a new sponsor
My sponsor had to step back a few months ago and I have been putting off getting a new one. Along with that my meeting attendance has dropped (to 2-3 a week). So today I am going to get a new sponsor. I may have to ask if she will be a "temporary" sponsor, but it's definitely time. I need a (gentle) kick in the rear.
Honestly the fact that my one-year sober-versay is coming up on 3/15 is freaking me out - I need a sponsor by then. Asking tonight at my regular Tuesday meeting.
Honestly the fact that my one-year sober-versay is coming up on 3/15 is freaking me out - I need a sponsor by then. Asking tonight at my regular Tuesday meeting.
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Canada. About as far south as you can get
Posts: 4,768
Excellent, I know how you feel......Let us know how it went.
In the past, I've gotten married with less analyzing and self-debating than choosing a sponsor.
Wishing you the best.
Bob R
In the past, I've gotten married with less analyzing and self-debating than choosing a sponsor.
Wishing you the best.
Bob R
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
When I agree to sponsor...I ask the woman to sit with me and
we go over the official AA guideline...
Most meetings have them on the free literature rack.here it is on line
Alcoholics Anonymous : Pamphlets
Blessings to both of you as you connect with joy and purpose..
we go over the official AA guideline...
Most meetings have them on the free literature rack.here it is on line
Alcoholics Anonymous : Pamphlets
Blessings to both of you as you connect with joy and purpose..
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Stockton CA - USA
Posts: 88
I think that beginning by asking for temporary sponsorship is a fine thing to do.
Don't shoot yourself in the foot by putting too many expectations on your one-year anniversary. It's a beautiful gift from God and your own willingness has been a part of it, but it is also just another day. Lower your expectations and give the credit to God and you won't have to be screwed up by either excitement or fear. Don't get in your own way. You'll be fine.
Don't shoot yourself in the foot by putting too many expectations on your one-year anniversary. It's a beautiful gift from God and your own willingness has been a part of it, but it is also just another day. Lower your expectations and give the credit to God and you won't have to be screwed up by either excitement or fear. Don't get in your own way. You'll be fine.
12-Step Recovered Alkie
Join Date: May 2010
Location: West Bloomfield, MI
Posts: 5,797
I was encouraged to "turn it over" when I figured out I needed to change sponsors. I picked my first one as best I could......he was great for a while but I outgrew him and he, well... he's not drinking but not living a life that I'd want any part of in sobriety. So.... it was suggested I ask God to find a better one for me. At that point, it became my duty to be present at a fair amount of meetings, hit new meetings, do some seeking, and keep my heart, mind, eyes, and ears open.
Sure enough.......one sat AM it struck me to go to a meeting. I found a 8:30AM Sat meeting (ppl serious about AA hit early am weekend meetings.....just a hint if you're trying to avoid MOTR meetings) and on my second time there I stood up during announcements and said I needed rides to/from meetings (I was driving illegally at the time). The guy who became my sponsor was tapping me on the shoulder before I sat down and said he'd pick me up anytime to go to a meeting. The sad part is I had made that same announcement at my homegroup several times and never had anyone offer to help me out.
Not only did I get a great sponsor........I also found a "real" meeting and a new homegroup.
Sure enough.......one sat AM it struck me to go to a meeting. I found a 8:30AM Sat meeting (ppl serious about AA hit early am weekend meetings.....just a hint if you're trying to avoid MOTR meetings) and on my second time there I stood up during announcements and said I needed rides to/from meetings (I was driving illegally at the time). The guy who became my sponsor was tapping me on the shoulder before I sat down and said he'd pick me up anytime to go to a meeting. The sad part is I had made that same announcement at my homegroup several times and never had anyone offer to help me out.
Not only did I get a great sponsor........I also found a "real" meeting and a new homegroup.
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