NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Whoo hoo..I'm finally on this one! Now, THIS should be easy. Well, if not easy, then extremely clear. Fear has run my life...

What a relief to get this stuff down on paper..

Tazman53

You will find this to be the beginning of freedom, it sure was for me, every time I got stuck on my inventory I always read the 5th step promises:

Those all came true for me, just do the best you can and keep in mind that one can always use step 10 to cover anything that may pop up after 4 & 5.

CarolD

Glad to know you are moving along Karen

29a

I said the 3rd step prayer before I sat down to work on my 4th step. it helped. Like tazman said, my 5th step was the beginning of freedom. It's when I started to be able to look the world in the eye. It was scary, the anticipation was anyway. But 5 minutes in to my 5th that fear was gone, and it was a great experience.

Sheryl85

I'm proud of you, Karen. Keep moving on!

WLDKATZ

you make me so proud to be following you in your steps......

jimhere

The book says to list our fears, then ask why we have them. The answer of course is because self-reliance has failed. The prayer is "Dear God, please remove this fear of___and direct my attention to what you would have me BE (not do).


An example from my recent inventory:

I am afraid of being broke.

Why? Because I'll feel bad
My creditors will harrass me.
I'll be homeless
All this work will be for nothing
My life will mean nothing
Everyone will think I'm a loser and abandon me and I will end up
Alone (the root fear behind every other fear that human beings experience)

Notice how the why column just keeps going deeper into fear? And I make decisions based on these self-centered fears that cause harm and put me in the position to be hurt.

Where has self-reliance failed me? In other words what do I selfishly want?

I use money to feel good. For emotional security.
I use money to look good.
I want the money for myself.
I need this money more than I need God

"Dear God please remove this fear of being broke and direction my attention to what You would have me be."

What would God have me be? Not do. We are human beings, not human doings. Our doing comes from our being.

God would have me be: Honest
Thrifty
Generous
A good steward of what passes through my hands.

Jim

Any quotes from Alcoholics Anonymous, First Edition

Signal30

Some love these, and some do not. Listed below is a AWESOME Fourth Step Inventory charts, directions, and prompt sheets. There are many like this, but I think this is the best. Many I know in the fellowship use this, (my sponsor and sponsee).

The Fear Inventory Prompt Sheet lists many fears. I know of a lot of people where both the resentment and fear prompt sheets helped motivate.

Here's the link. www.12step.org/docs/Step4_Inventory.pdf




If you don't feel like clicking on the below PDF file here's the list of fears.


Fear Of God
Fear Of Dying
Fear Of Insanity
Fear Of Insecurity
Fear Of Rejection
Fear Of Loneliness
Fear Of Disease's
Fear Of Alcohol
Fear Of Drugs
Fear Of Relapse
Fear Of Sex
Fear Of Sin
Fear Of Self-Expression
Fear Of Authority
Fear Of Heights
Fear Of Unemployment
Fear Of Employment
Fear Of Parents
Fear Of Losing A Wife
Fear Of Losing A Husband
Fear Of Losing A Child
Fear Of Animals
Fear Of Insects
Fear Of Police
Fear Of Jail
Fear Of Doctor's
Fear Of Stealing
Fear Of Creditors
Fear Of Being Found Out
Fear Of Homosexuals & Lesbians
Fear Of Failure
Fear Of Success
Fear Of Responsibility
Fear Of Physical Pain
Fear Of Fear
Fear Of Drowning
Fear Of Men
Fear Of Women
Fear Of Being Alone
Fear Of People
Fear Of Crying
Fear Of Poverty
Fear Of Races
Fear Of The Unknown
Fear Of Abandonment
Fear Of Intimacy
Fear Of Disapproval
Fear Of Rejection
Fear Of Confrontation
Fear Of Sobriety
Fear Of Hospitals
Fear Of Responsibility
Fear Of Feelings
Fear Of Getting Old
Fear Of Hurting Others
Fear Of Violence
Fear Of Writing Inventory
Fear Of Being Alive
Fear Of Government
Fear Of Gangs
Fear Of Gossip
Fear Of Wealthy People
Fear Of Guns
Fear Of Change

All the ones in bold were some of the fears I have listed on fear inventories.


Of course there are many others, but this list can get the gears turning.


Tom

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

Thank you everyone..and Tom I pm'd you. Thank you so much.

Karen

Sugah

1cor13

The world we see that seems so insane is the result of a belief system that is not working. To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief system, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds.

William James


The result of my own belief system didn’t work the drinking the drugs, the insanity that surrounded my world. It was only when I changed my belief system accepted AA’s and was able to let go of the past did I expand my sense of now and perceive the world differently. No longer was I alone and no longer was I afraid.

Good job and the forth!!!!!!!!

Tazman53

My sponsor asked me if I knew how to rid myself of fear? Funny thing but by this time I only had one real major fear left and that was drinking again, not that I wanted to, but it was the beast lurking in the dark corners of my cluttered head. I recall part of my answer was facing it..................... he looked at me and said one word "Faith".

I agreed at the time but in the back of my head that beast still lurked, but so did his answer to fear......... faith!!!! It was later that evening during part of my quiet time that I pondered again what he had said........ FAITH!!!!

Suddenly it dawned on me, I had no fear of drinking again as long as I have FAITH in the steps and being able to maintain my spiritual fitness!!! The fear of drinking again was lifted!

I have used FAITH to remove other fears since then.