LeadHatter

how do i alter this. the feeling of sadness makes me want to codie on someone that i know is not good for me. i'm not acting on this trigger but its there. i begun my codie recovery say 3.5 months ago.

i have read 80/90% of codependent no more and about half of adult children of alcoholics by janet geringer woititz. Ive also read a few of the 'language of letting go' daily posts here on SR

just noticed this today sadness=codie trigger for me

dollydo

Are saying that if someone else is sad you want to fix it?

LeadHatter

not really ijust can have childlike reactions really like if i am sad i can want to run to mum and dad - i dont but i still can want to - ill get there.

MMkM

You are still sorting through all sorts of feelings of finding out about
how being a child in dysfunctional family is.

Other more experienced posters may comment but it is normal to go
through all sorts of emotions as you try to work through them with
the suggestions of the posts on this forum.

Knowing this is/has been part of the process for most of us should
help you realize it takes work and effort and time.

You did great not giving in to calling them, just acknowledged to
yourself that you wanted a parent's comfort.

LeadHatter

Thanks MMKm for your kind supportive message