I thought about it sober.
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Interesting comment. Believe it or not what I'm advocating is authenticity. Authenticity has a wonderful effect on relationships. What I was getting at to the OP....which is what this thread is about....is that what he is doing is in secret......that is to say, what you do in secret reveals a bigger problem.....if you are doing something in secret you are not being authentic.....if you are not being authentic in your relationship it begs the question.....why? why can't you be authentic with your partner? I believe this is the crux of the problem...
to answer your snide question.....which is what it is....let's call a spade a spade.....why are you asking me that?
No, I am not married. I'll be completely honest and say i don't believe in marriage. I don't believe in getting the state nor the church involved in my personal affairs.
I've answered your question pet. Are you married? Does she wear the pants? I would put my life on it.
I'll add that no I'm not married, however I do have extensive experience and credentials in the matter. Shoul I apologise for giving my opinion? I thought that's what the forum is for?
to answer your snide question.....which is what it is....let's call a spade a spade.....why are you asking me that?
No, I am not married. I'll be completely honest and say i don't believe in marriage. I don't believe in getting the state nor the church involved in my personal affairs.
I've answered your question pet. Are you married? Does she wear the pants? I would put my life on it.
I'll add that no I'm not married, however I do have extensive experience and credentials in the matter. Shoul I apologise for giving my opinion? I thought that's what the forum is for?
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Believe me if you were sitting beside me you would see that I''m very easy going and open to other peoples' opinions!!!!!!!
I say what I think.....I suppose that can come across in a different manner....
I too can spot a single bloke a mile away....
Being sober is the best thing you can do for any relationship...
I used to hide bottles of whisky in the garden....
Real trust with partner is crucial IMO for recovery....
Good luck.
Being sober is the best thing you can do for any relationship...
I used to hide bottles of whisky in the garden....
Real trust with partner is crucial IMO for recovery....
Good luck.
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I will add something: I'm not married, however I am spinning three plates. Do you know what that means?
Your judging me on what you think is the norm. You've no idea that you're traped in an illusion.
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thomas glad to see you well man.
Can i ask you a question? The one thing for me that sticks out in your posts is the following: why do you need your wife's absence before you can drink?
It's only my opinion but, I think this lies the answer to some of your questions....
why don't you drink when you want? does she have an authority over you? if so, why? are you the man you want to be kid? are you living in your wife's shadow?
Can i ask you a question? The one thing for me that sticks out in your posts is the following: why do you need your wife's absence before you can drink?
It's only my opinion but, I think this lies the answer to some of your questions....
why don't you drink when you want? does she have an authority over you? if so, why? are you the man you want to be kid? are you living in your wife's shadow?
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hmmm, I've never heard of planting a garden of whiskey. Props to you sir. haha
King, I can do whatever I want, when I want. I don't live in anyone's shadow. But my wife keep me grounded. Not unlike a lot of marriages. I don't do anything in secret. Dude, I own my business and own a handful of houses, I don't have to do anything I don't want to do. But I love my wife and want to make her happy and be proud of the man she married. Does that make sense?
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King, I can do whatever I want, when I want. I don't live in anyone's shadow. But my wife keep me grounded. Not unlike a lot of marriages. I don't do anything in secret. Dude, I own my business and own a handful of houses, I don't have to do anything I don't want to do.
Hoping you choose the better course. But you are also free to choose self-destruction. Because "big boys" are free to do that.
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