PseudoWidow

Hello everyone! In the spirit of being positive and knowing that there are success stories of healing and hope, I'd love to hear them! I know it is not often the case, but I do have a strong faith and know God will do what is best for me. It would definitely take a miracle for change to happen in my husband, and I continue to pray as I simultaneously continue to heal and grow on my own during our separation. Thanks for sharing! Praying and lifting everyone up in healing hope and love!

zoso77

My miracle was in the disguise of a strangely wrapped gift.

Five years ago this month, my AGF took her act on the road. She left me for another addict, someone from the Fellowship, and on her way out the door confessed to multiple infidelities.

In the five years since, I've reclaimed my professional career, completed graduate school (MS in electrical engineering), have become a wiser, more cautious person, and got engaged to be married on Saint Lucia this September.

I think what we need to do at times is take a step back and really ask ourselves what it is we need instead of what it is we want. And that's tough when it comes to relationships and/or marriages because we're so emotionally invested in them. So when my AXGF did me the favor of showing me what she really was, I made the most of the opportunity she gave.

So, yes, pray for your husband. But also think about what it is you need for yourself going forward. And keep in mind that miracles doesn't necessarily arrive at our doorstep dressed as such...

Ann

My miracle was not what I hoped for but exactly what I needed...my own recovery from the codependency that had dragged me down as my son's addiction worsened over time.

Today I live a life filled with joy and I try to find the beauty in every day. That's not to say there are no obstacles or problems along the way, but I have the faith and tools to handle whatever life hands me today.

My faith let's my put my son's life in God's hands, through prayer every morning, then I live my day trusting that God can do for my son what I cannot.

You sound like you have a positive attitude and faith that God will lead you to where you are supposed to go. That alone is a miracle, considering all you have been through along the way to arrive at this turning point of your life.

Hugs

Hechosedrugs

Same here. I found my miracle by leaving the insanity I'd become accustomed to. I'm a better human being, and a much better mother because of it. I like who I am. I no longer suffer from bitchyrestingface. People like me. They're drawn to me, because I have joy. I feel like the world is my oyster. Men are lining up at my door, and for the first time in my life I realize I can and should be choosy. I know I am one heck of a woman and I'm not going to let just any old loser into my and my kids' lives. I know my WORTH. That is priceless. So I wouldn't change a thing about what got me here. But I sure as heck wouldn't go back.

Strangely wrapped gift, indeed. My biggest fear became the best thing that ever happened to me.

PseudoWidow

I agree with you all that there are miracles in the gifts of healing, God's protection in these situations, and more. I am so grateful for those gifts that i have received. I'm actually wondering more about the miracles of their addict hitting their bottom, repenting and choosing sobriety. I know it happens...I know some people who have, but not anyone on here that it seems. I know how incredibly rare it is to happen. Especially with marriages being restored, but that's why they are called miracles.