Now it's my sister-in-law!
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It's a sad thing when you realize someone may not necessarily have a "bottom." I am happy you are attending meetings and staying strong. Because those we love self destruct does not mean we have to do the same.
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Yes, I can't get sucked in. I'm in recovery from drinking for 4 years, and ehilemthismdoesnt make me want to drink, it gets me spinning emotionally. Thank you, very much.
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Congratulations on your own recovery nancylee! That is a great great thing. It's always nice to hear a success story. I am sorry for what you are going through but very glad of your own resolve to stay sober!
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Originally Posted by hopeful4 
Congratulations on your own recovery nancylee! That is a great great thing. It's always nice to hear a success story. I am sorry for what you are going through but very glad of your own resolve to stay sober!
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Originally Posted by zoso77
Nancy, I'm less concerned about your SIL and more concerned about you.
Sometimes, events transpire that are not in our control. This is one of them. So I'm of the opinion that the best thing for you is to disengage and allow whatever is supposed to happen happen.
Take care of you.
Sometimes, events transpire that are not in our control. This is one of them. So I'm of the opinion that the best thing for you is to disengage and allow whatever is supposed to happen happen.
Take care of you.
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Originally Posted by Firefall
I am repeating this yet again because it contains the wisdom we need when we get amped up to fix others mistakes and miseries.
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No assumptions meant, you can chalk it up to dumb thumbs or over tired, was meant by way of encouragement, my apologies.
The battle you have fought and the choices you make show strength and character, something to be valued.
The battle you have fought and the choices you make show strength and character, something to be valued.
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No, no offense taken. Just wanted to not worry you. Part of taking care of myself is recognizing that this concern about her is taking the focus off of me, and isn't healthy, and is causing resentments in me, which is why I posted. I apologize for my response coming out wrong.
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Hi,
I'm good. My SIL came home, her sister took her food shopping and her mother was busy and didnt go to the AlAnon meeting. So the enabling continues.
My husband is down there working, so I don't ask questions. I saw on my phone that she called me at around 11PM, but gladly, I missed it. Why is she calling so late? She could have stayed at the rehab longer if she told them she felt anxious, but she wanted out, so...she's out. I expect her to be back within a week.
Trying to stay out of it all. Thank you for asking, Firefall,
Nancy
I'm good. My SIL came home, her sister took her food shopping and her mother was busy and didnt go to the AlAnon meeting. So the enabling continues.
My husband is down there working, so I don't ask questions. I saw on my phone that she called me at around 11PM, but gladly, I missed it. Why is she calling so late? She could have stayed at the rehab longer if she told them she felt anxious, but she wanted out, so...she's out. I expect her to be back within a week.
Trying to stay out of it all. Thank you for asking, Firefall,
Nancy
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