I need advice PLEASE help me with my spouse's issue!
Down Below in the Family and Friends Section . . .
You'll find a lot more opportunities to find the answers you seek. Someone is also likely to recommend Al-Anon Family Groups where they'll give you some coping tools as well as some tools for personal growth . . .
What hooked me on Al-Anon was somebody saying, "If you're obsessing on someone else's behavior, Al-Anon is for you."
I didn't have an answer or a "yeah, but" for that one, so I went . . . For a long time . . .
At Al-Anon, you'll learn about the "Three C's," that you didn't "Cause" the disease, that you can't "Cure" it, and you can't "Control" it . . .
If you just answered, "Yeah, right, I can too" to that last one, then there's some unlearning you need to do, because I promise you, you can't, and there are lots out there who can teach that truth . . . One taught it to me (she's dead now).
I don't know whether your husband is an alcoholic based on the information you gave (and really, the only diagnosis that matter is his), but I see some red flags.
And I see other red flags in the dynamics going on, which can't be healthy for you or the relationship...
Good luck, and keep coming back . . .
What hooked me on Al-Anon was somebody saying, "If you're obsessing on someone else's behavior, Al-Anon is for you."
I didn't have an answer or a "yeah, but" for that one, so I went . . . For a long time . . .
At Al-Anon, you'll learn about the "Three C's," that you didn't "Cause" the disease, that you can't "Cure" it, and you can't "Control" it . . .
If you just answered, "Yeah, right, I can too" to that last one, then there's some unlearning you need to do, because I promise you, you can't, and there are lots out there who can teach that truth . . . One taught it to me (she's dead now).
I don't know whether your husband is an alcoholic based on the information you gave (and really, the only diagnosis that matter is his), but I see some red flags.
And I see other red flags in the dynamics going on, which can't be healthy for you or the relationship...
Good luck, and keep coming back . . .
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: NC
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Well, I sat down criedn and poured out my concerns and my request and he said fine. We were more important and if that's what I needed he would do it.....So thanks for all the advice to be strong and stand for my beliefs! I will continue to pot!!
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