The trurth comes out
Left the bottle behind 4/16/2015
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The trurth comes out
Meeting with my kids in a few hours and telling them Daddy is going away for a month. Scared sh1tless and nervous. I love those kids with all my heart. I would give up my life in an instant for them. What am I worth without them?
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I am so glad you are talking to them. I saw your other thread & didnt congratulate you yet. What you are doing is amazing all around. If you continue you, you will die. That would be way harder to hear than "dad is sick and is going to the hospital, but will be ok"
Again...SO glad you are doing this! You were given a huge gift!
Again...SO glad you are doing this! You were given a huge gift!
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Originally Posted by GetMeOut 
Meeting with my kids in a few hours and telling them Daddy is going away for a month. Scared sh1tless and nervous. I love those kids with all my heart. I would give up my life in an instant for them. What am I worth without them?
Hi.
I suggest you reread your post a few times.
First is the fact that we get sober for OURSELF first because if we don’t all bets are off! Like it or not!
Loving them is great but acting and feeling less than is certainly not even a fair example to set.
Sorry I am so blunt but sometimes we need a kick in the s to get the needed attention.
Life is not a totally smooth road and we need to develop coping skills along with being good examples.
BE WELL
Left the bottle behind 4/16/2015
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Originally Posted by IOAA2
Hi.
I suggest you reread your post a few times.
First is the fact that we get sober for OURSELF first because if we don’t all bets are off! Like it or not!
Loving them is great but acting and feeling less than is certainly not even a fair example to set.
Sorry I am so blunt but sometimes we need a kick in the s to get the needed attention.
Life is not a totally smooth road and we need to develop coping skills along with being good examples.
BE WELL
I suggest you reread your post a few times.
First is the fact that we get sober for OURSELF first because if we don’t all bets are off! Like it or not!
Loving them is great but acting and feeling less than is certainly not even a fair example to set.
Sorry I am so blunt but sometimes we need a kick in the s to get the needed attention.
Life is not a totally smooth road and we need to develop coping skills along with being good examples.
BE WELL
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My mom used to tell me and everyone how much she loved me, and that she would die for me, that I was her reason for living, etc.
She ended up killing herself. She was an alcoholic and prescription drug addict.
Your kids can't keep you alive. They can't save you from yourself, or save you from this addiction.
Only you can do that.
Get yourself to rehab.
She ended up killing herself. She was an alcoholic and prescription drug addict.
Your kids can't keep you alive. They can't save you from yourself, or save you from this addiction.
Only you can do that.
Get yourself to rehab.
Left the bottle behind 4/16/2015
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Originally Posted by SoberJennie
My mom used to tell me and everyone how much she loved me, and that she would die for me, that I was her reason for living, etc.
She ended up killing herself. She was an alcoholic and prescription drug addict.
Your kids can't keep you alive. They can't save you from yourself, or save you from this addiction.
Only you can do that.
Get yourself to rehab.
She ended up killing herself. She was an alcoholic and prescription drug addict.
Your kids can't keep you alive. They can't save you from yourself, or save you from this addiction.
Only you can do that.
Get yourself to rehab.
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Originally Posted by SoberJennie
Your kids can't keep you alive. They can't save you from yourself, or save you from this addiction.
Only you can do that.
Get yourself to rehab.
Only you can do that.
Get yourself to rehab.
You're saving your kids by going to rehab. They may not understand it now, but some day they'll thank you.
Good luck, friend.
Left the bottle behind 4/16/2015
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Originally Posted by IOAA2
Hi.
I suggest you reread your post a few times.
First is the fact that we get sober for OURSELF first because if we don’t all bets are off! Like it or not!
Loving them is great but acting and feeling less than is certainly not even a fair example to set.
Sorry I am so blunt but sometimes we need a kick in the s to get the needed attention.
Life is not a totally smooth road and we need to develop coping skills along with being good examples.
BE WELL
I suggest you reread your post a few times.
First is the fact that we get sober for OURSELF first because if we don’t all bets are off! Like it or not!
Loving them is great but acting and feeling less than is certainly not even a fair example to set.
Sorry I am so blunt but sometimes we need a kick in the s to get the needed attention.
Life is not a totally smooth road and we need to develop coping skills along with being good examples.
BE WELL
Left the bottle behind 4/16/2015
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Originally Posted by IOAA2
Hi.
I suggest you reread your post a few times.
First is the fact that we get sober for OURSELF first because if we don’t all bets are off! Like it or not!
Loving them is great but acting and feeling less than is certainly not even a fair example to set.
Sorry I am so blunt but sometimes we need a kick in the s to get the needed attention.
Life is not a totally smooth road and we need to develop coping skills along with being good examples.
BE WELL
I suggest you reread your post a few times.
First is the fact that we get sober for OURSELF first because if we don’t all bets are off! Like it or not!
Loving them is great but acting and feeling less than is certainly not even a fair example to set.
Sorry I am so blunt but sometimes we need a kick in the s to get the needed attention.
Life is not a totally smooth road and we need to develop coping skills along with being good examples.
BE WELL
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your brave. I think if it was rehab and 30 days without my kids or trying to kick the habit myself (and probably failing) i'd choose the later. I'd be too scared to be without my kids for 30 days even tho it might be for my own good etc...
Good luck.
Good luck.
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Just get there and focus. Do anything in the world you have to to stay sober. You can do it!
Don't be drunk when you meet up with your children, and don't make empty promises. Just make sure they know they are loved, that is clear to see!
Don't be drunk when you meet up with your children, and don't make empty promises. Just make sure they know they are loved, that is clear to see!
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Hi.
You understand the lingo as I did for a long time, the next thing was/is to work the program as it’s laid out, not the way I want it with the consequences which results in continuous misery.
Blunt = the facts which many don’t like and won’t accept.
BE WELL
You understand the lingo as I did for a long time, the next thing was/is to work the program as it’s laid out, not the way I want it with the consequences which results in continuous misery.
Blunt = the facts which many don’t like and won’t accept.
BE WELL
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Originally Posted by IOAA2
Hi.
You understand the lingo as I did for a long time, the next thing was/is to work the program as it’s laid out, not the way I want it with the consequences which results in continuous misery.
Blunt = the facts which many don’t like and won’t accept.
BE WELL
You understand the lingo as I did for a long time, the next thing was/is to work the program as it’s laid out, not the way I want it with the consequences which results in continuous misery.
Blunt = the facts which many don’t like and won’t accept.
BE WELL
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Originally Posted by hopeful4
Just get there and focus. Do anything in the world you have to to stay sober. You can do it!
Don't be drunk when you meet up with your children, and don't make empty promises. Just make sure they know they are loved, that is clear to see!
Don't be drunk when you meet up with your children, and don't make empty promises. Just make sure they know they are loved, that is clear to see!
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I wish my father admitted his addiction like this and went into recovery. Hasn't once apologized for his drug use.
As for the other stuff on this thread, I think in recovery you'll find that some people replace immoderate drinking with immoderate advice offering. I regard it an an exercise in patience!
As for the other stuff on this thread, I think in recovery you'll find that some people replace immoderate drinking with immoderate advice offering. I regard it an an exercise in patience!
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Good luck to you. Whatever your reasons are right now, you will discover many more as you begin your journey back to the human being God intended you to be.
Actually, it was my family I did it for initially. In that, I found one million things I liked about myself again. Now it's still about them, but it's also about me too.
Sending prayers your way!
Actually, it was my family I did it for initially. In that, I found one million things I liked about myself again. Now it's still about them, but it's also about me too.
Sending prayers your way!
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